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he is extremely drunk I don't know what to do I can call his mom at work, should I do that or is he just trying to create drama? she'd be devastated!!!!

2006-08-18 21:12:38 · 18 answers · asked by dandelion86 2 in Family & Relationships Other - Family & Relationships

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i know from having alot of expierence with this subject as i have manic depression along with other problems, and friends and ex-gf's that have gone through similar things, as well as my cousin killed himself, that you never treat these things as the person as a trying to create drama. it will always be better to try and help and find out he was being a attention hungry fool, than to think that they are begging for attention and then they are dead, the remorse would be terrible. when i went through some severe depression and attempted suicides, i told ssomeone and went to rehab and taht helped a little from the therepy and alot from it being a scary place to be. that remains as one of the worst expierences of my life. but i was on a pretty clear path to death, so it was for the best. when i was going out with a girl, we were in Love, she was going through some "hard times' and she was cutting )chicken scratches, but cutting nonetheless) she was really depressed and not sure what she would do, so i went to my school nurse and she ended up in rehab. in the end she was more of an attention seeker, but the whole rehab thing was a kick in the face, and cleared her thoughts on death real quick. even if things are mild, such as her cutting was chicken scratches (basicly pin scrapes as far as cutting goes) cutting starts somewhere and progresses, it happened like that for me, i started cuttting cause it took the mind off the emotional pain, and things quickly esculated into nasty insicions, that should have required stitches. i ended up Loving the pain, and even if i wasnt deppressed, i would slice wounds and singe them closed just for the feeling and the rush. deppression is a serious thing. a close friend went through something similar, the cutting and suicidal tendancies, he went to a therepists, and found where he really stood on the subject. he still likes to cut for the pleasure and whatnot occasionaly, but the whole suicide thing is out of his head.
in your case, it is blatently reaching out, wether its on a last limb, close to it, or just very unsure, or wanting attention, in whatever the case turns out to be, he is reaching out to you, abd you should feel good that he is looking to you i his time of need.
having someone who cares is soemthing that is important to any depressed person, wether they think they will go through with it, it is a big decision and you are, for him, a part of the decision, possibly more or less depending on whats in his head, no mattter the case, he is looking to you, and you should what is in your power to help him, talk to him, when he is sober and try and get him to see what he means to the world. if you go to school, then you may want to talk to a nurse about it, they will call his mom, and would have him escorted down to the nurses room, talk to him, try and help, in complete confidence, and when his mom gets there they will talk with her, and then him and his mom, and likely suggest some sort of rehab, be it in patient or out paitent, that would ultimately be up to the hospital, in decifering the circumstances, the risks, the level of depression, things like that.
you can as you said call his mom, the problem with that is then it is completely in the parents hands, and how they interpret it, and how they want to handle it, and if they even think theres a problem, i have known people who had their parents contacted and they only got mad that they were trying to attract attension to themselves. so that solution depends on the parent, another thing to consider is that that the school way would be on nirse record, so if she chose to ignore it then, or even punish him for seeking attention or something like that, then there could very well be a world of hurt coming as to that would be a big thing in a decision of that caliber.
no matter what you choose to do, i hope it is in the coarse of a helping him and of a positive solution.
with that fool saying that hes palying you, hes not in your situation.
and you are mistaken to think that suicidal people dont care. some dont, but alot if not most care about something deeply and or many things, and that is why they are planning on killing themslelves.
you dont go to jail and have to be bailed out for wanting to kill yourself, thats just lunicy. the police is another obvious good call.

1-800-suicide = National HOPEline network (national suicide help and prevention hotline. give them a call. they are trained proffesionals.
www.suicidehotlines.com


good luck, i hope everything turns out for the best

2006-08-18 21:47:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

If he IS just trying to create drama the guy has a serious need for attention. If he really wants to die the guy has a serious problem. Either way, I'd call his Mom and let her decide what to do. If you try and deal with this alone and judge wrongly you may have trouble dealing with your decision later.

2006-08-19 04:20:20 · answer #2 · answered by Hidden .38 3 · 0 0

Drama, he is calling out for help, and he needs it, but get him into councelling, soon, and you could call the police, but then he goes to jail, you have to bail him out tomorrow and you'll be broke on top of everything else, the best thing you can tell him, is ok, go ahead and do it, just let us all a note saying why you did what u did, and that its no ones fault but yours....when they try to write a note, they 99 out of 100 with just change their mind...go with those odds.

2006-08-19 04:19:06 · answer #3 · answered by wizzard 4 · 0 0

Not to make a bad sounding situation worse but....

he is just trying to make you feel bad for him because he knows young females are softies for 'hard luck' cases....


Those kinds of things you don't tell anyone about. If you're suicidal you don't care, and just want to get out.

Really, he's playing you.
Tell him to go to bed.

'The morning is wiser than the evening'. old Russian proverb

2006-08-19 04:21:05 · answer #4 · answered by BlueChimera 3 · 0 0

Call the police!

2006-08-19 04:21:30 · answer #5 · answered by Deb 3 · 0 0

Definatley call the police immediately to stop him from harming himself or others

2006-08-19 04:19:22 · answer #6 · answered by devilmaycry42 2 · 0 0

Better a devastated mom than a dead son.

2006-08-19 04:44:05 · answer #7 · answered by Ironball 7 · 0 0

well, if you think he really want kill himselfe call police, or tell his mom, and if he say this i am sure he is not healthy.
he need help, but try to save yourself first, be sure he is not dengerous for u too.

2006-08-19 04:20:45 · answer #8 · answered by Jane Doe 3 · 0 0

If he's letting you know, he's wanting attention. Otherwise, he would just kill himself. Call the cops... that will get attention.

2006-08-19 04:17:21 · answer #9 · answered by Private Account 5 · 0 0

Don't wait! Call someone now! I don't care who! Could you live with it if your're wrong about DRAMA. It's his life

2006-08-19 04:18:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Call the cops and give them the address, let them handle it and don't tell him you called them before they get there.

2006-08-19 04:18:40 · answer #11 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 0 0

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