When i met this guy it was kind of love at first sight for me we were together for over 1yr and then broke-up. I tried to go on with my life by going out and dating wich at the time it seem to work but for some reason he always somehow would come back into my life. We never got back together but we would still see each other by this I mean dinner and of course sex. On and off we saw each other for over 4 years I always hanged on because I loved him but then I found out that he married his ex while he still saw me on the side I told his wife and of course to me his dead.
But now Im having serious issues with man I feel like they are all liars and just cannot get back into the dating thing again.I feel completely betrayed,discusted,depressed and lonely...
2006-08-18 20:43:54 · 6 answers · asked by prettygirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I hate this for you and I am truly sorry, I have been in a similar situation. You might not ever get completely over him, but you will survive and everything will work out with time. You have built the Wall of China as your defense mechanism because of the pain you have endured from this man. This is what most of us do when we get really really hurt. Like in a way that you can't hardly even describe, but you wouldn't wish it on anyone, not even your worst enemy. It is a very difficult situation, any I know it's hard to even want to go out, meet anyone new, or at times even want to do anything. With time the wall will start to thin out a little bit. You will probably never let it completely down again, but that is simply because you don't feel you could take that type of hurt again. Just remember, you have to keep on trucking and believe in yourself and mankind. You will eventually find someone who won't rush you and understands about the wall. Men are evil creatures at times, but they aren't all bad. There are men who have been done the same way and hurt as well. Try not to be too standoffish from all males, but don't try to rush anything. When the right meant to be one comes along the wall will start to crumble. Probably little tiny pieces at a time, but if you got hurt bad enough to put the wall up, then you have a heart and with time you will allow men to get closer. I was really bad about pushing them away, so my advice would be take it very slow. Don't push them away before you even let them within 1000 feet of you, but you probably won't want any man near for a while. That's healing time for most. So just try to relax as best you can, remember you are a good hearted person who is probably going to be hell for a man to get close to, but someone in the future will do things unexpectedly and respectfully toward you and then your wall will start the crumbling process. Just keep your head up and don't fret too much. Life is too short to be miserable. Just do what you know you have to do and be happy with you, and everything else will fall into place in time. You might have to be patient with both others, and most especially yourself. Everything will work out! I promise. Sorry, I wish I could help, but it's a hard situation. Been there. Sorry and I wish you the best of luck and happiness.
2006-08-18 21:29:52 · answer #1 · answered by Amber T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think every woman has been where you are at one point in their life. Ane every person must go through their pain in their own way. But I have always found the best way to get COMPLETLEY over someone is...time. I don't mean to sound flip but you must take time to be by yourself, with youself, for yourself. And please do not try to find another man to be with for awhile. Allow yourself time to really heal. If and when the time is right for you to be with someone, that person will present himself. If you seek you will find and that's not always a good thing. Get your self esteem back. Loving someone before you love yourself is a waste of time. There really are great men out there. So when it's time, respect yourself enough to follow your head along with your heart. *smile*
2006-08-19 04:04:53 · answer #2 · answered by cake66 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you didnt feel betrayed, disgusted, depressed or lonely. I would have said you are inhumane. From a male perspective, I too was in a similar situation. This become very comfortable, called her everyday, sometimes 3-4 times a day. In between the times when I was thinking, "Gosh I wonder what she is doing?" Men always strive to be something they are not, they think it impresses women. And women, just want to men to be themselves and, of course, tall dark and handsome. This, among others puts men in a predicament to lie. But then again, women strive to be that gorgeous, vibrant lady that they think men want. But men just want a simple down-to-earth caring individual. As much as moving on hurts, do not give up on us men, not all of us are selfish and self-centered. PLEASE!
2006-08-19 04:32:59 · answer #3 · answered by Gilligan W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop being so true to yourself. Be jaded like the rest of the world.
2006-08-19 04:39:39 · answer #4 · answered by Tuna-San 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you never stop loving someone you truly loved, if it was real. you can forgive but you never forget. you just got to except that you will always love him, but don't let it stop you from loving another guy in the future, that will love you in the same way,,, just be careful who who trust, always be cautious, guys are always fake at first,,,,
2006-08-19 03:54:25 · answer #5 · answered by mami 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
............................................T.I.M.E. HEALS,..............YOU WILL>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>
2006-08-19 21:51:52 · answer #6 · answered by lickit4u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋