Whats missing in life?

Question

I've got the perfect girlfriend, sweet car, well paying job, all the gadgets I've ever needed, friends, family, and God is by my side. I just feel that there is a hole in my heart. I'm like a rock. Whats going on?? Anybody else feel that way?

Answer 1

Life Purpose is missing. Without it people often feel lost and seek out external things to fill themselves up.

Answer 2

I feel that way right now but I don't have all the things that you have so that may be my problem. However, a lot of time the stereotypical "path" that our generation faces can cause those problems. Sometimes what we want isn't always what we actually want but what we think we should want. I'm not saying you don't love your girlfriend or that is sucks to have money or that friends, family and God are not important aspects in our lives. I just think that part of what drives us day by day is to attain those things and once we do (like you for instance), you stop and think, what now? I know there is a stigma to going to see a psychiatrist because people think they have to be crazy or something has to be bad in their lives. But that is not the case with you but I still think you would benefit from an unbiased perspective from a qualified professional who is not their to prescribe you medicine (actually maybe that's the psychologist ...? I sometimes don't know the difference but you can figure out that you don't need the one to diagnose you with some mental illness. The point is rather they are trained to open up part of yourself that you don't even know where closed. They are craftsman in the art of conversation, debate, listening. You might reject this idea, the only reason I am putting it forward is because I realized I myself need to figure out what the hell is going on with me. Another thing to think about it to concentrate on what would really make you happy. You like your "well-paying" job but you didn't mention much about how much you liked it. I know money is important in this place in life, especially for the male and sometimes money can trump passion and desire. What did you dream about when you were younger? Is the life you are living, as much as it sounds perfect, the way you imagined it once you got all those things? I think there is a point in everyone's life when they start to analyze their worth. Not their worth in monetary value because that is easy to get if you work hard enough, but rather their worth in the world. Am I doing enough, will I be remembered for something great? I think about these things all the time because I sometimes don't know what the point of life is. I know a part of you feels guilty for feeling this way because you feel worse for whining about a perfect life. But monotony and routine doesn't inspire the heart and soul. It doesn't makes us feel alive. I'm not saying to go out and do anything crazy but wonder why you wake up each and every day and why you are allowed to have this extra day. And if were to die tomorrow, would you have been happy with that last day? Some people take it to the extreme and act like they can live without rules but I see it more like a, am I content and happy at this exact moment and if not, why not? I know I am rambling on and on but I am pretty much giving you every idea that pops into my mind because I deal with this idea a lot. Am I happy? And if I even have to ask that question chances are I'm not. Maybe you need a hobby, maybe you could spring it off to your girlfriend to see if she could help because people that love you can sometimes see you better than you see yourself, though she might take it personally if you have a whole in your heart and she isn't enough to fill it. (Girls are crazy, I know because I am both.) Anyways, this may all sound stupid to you but it just takes a little self-analysis to figure what is going on in that ****** up head that Adam and Even gave us. I sometimes really wish we all lived in ignorant bliss. (I know that God is in your heart so I apologize for the blasphemy.)

Answer 3

is God really by your side... coz if He was you should not have that hole inside... maybe its the material things that are getting in the may of your relationship with yourself... you have to know who you are before you can be the best person you can be.... and God can help you there, also try Buddhism for more spirituality or Community Service so you can help the less fortunate and realise that your life is really Quite Wonderful compared to others... to appreciate and be thankful for what you have...

Answer 4

You are looking on the outside for everything. If you lost everything you had - everything - WHAT would you have left? That is what you need to focus on, what is inside you at the core, not what you have or what you can brag about - its whats left when nothing else is there.

When you have that, when you know that, embrace that and experience that, nothing else matters and you will never feel empty.