I use to go to the gay bar all the time but now I have tired of the whole experience. The people there seem to pride themselves of promiscuity. Everyone seems so superficial and lacking intellectual depth. Does anyone else feel this way?
2006-08-18 20:07:09 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Sociology
Not all gay men are this way.
Even straight people who often go to straight bars pride themselves on promiscuity.
So mistake number one is going to any bar to find people who have intellectual depth and aren't superficial.
2006-08-18 20:14:48 · answer #1 · answered by q_midori 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some of these men you may see didn't have the luxury of going through their exploring sex stage in their teens / early twenties - they were in the closet, heterosexualy married, straight relationships, military, etc. For a lot of us, sexuality comes in phases. Not everyone develops the same. Maybe some of these men are not ready for a relationship and are exploring their sex drive? Maybe some of them were in a relationship, it ended, and are not ready to start another one immediately. Maybe some of them are not relationship material (and they dont HAVE to be). To each his own.
Here is a shock - most people are superficial. We all have our lists and such. I am sure you do if you think about it.
The world must be a small place if you believe all gays can only be found in gay bars. Try expanding out to different arenas - sports groups, social events, etc. If they don't exist, start one! Stop meeting them when they are at their worst - drunk, horny, and saying stupid stuff. What do expect from people who have been drinking? ;-)
Give it a shot and good luck.
2006-08-20 18:48:54 · answer #2 · answered by sundiegan 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Being a homosexual, you should know that there are many things about ourselves that we do not choose, but is simply the way we are and that there is no one correct lifestyle that everyone fits into. I'm sure that there are many people out there who would agree with you because, for the largest portion of it, I do too. However, I hesitate to judge those who are promiscuous as this may be their way of being themselves. Still I congratulate you on your quest for greater intellectual depth and wish you luck as you search for your true identity.
2006-08-22 07:46:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not GAY men who are promiscous, it's MEN who are, straight or gay. It ain't stereotype, it's biology. Men tend to spread their seeds to as many women as possible, only that there's a twist in the story for gay men.
Superficial? Lack of intellectual depth? No one looks for depth and intellect in a bar, be it a gay bar or a striaght bar. Bar is simply the wrong place to go. Trust me, hit the library and museum.
2006-08-21 05:59:14 · answer #4 · answered by Dinner 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honestly, I think you just described every "straight" club I've saddled up to bar in... just try a new hang... or start your own trend of "high-brow conversation"... or there is always the library to meet people with the intellectual depth you are seeking.
2006-08-18 20:38:54 · answer #5 · answered by wonderful1 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's all about trying to fit in, isn't it? Truth is, that is the general truth about most clubs (gay or straight) - people desperately trying to gain acceptance, with a little liquid courage of course. It is all rather sad in a way.
2006-08-18 20:18:11 · answer #6 · answered by kat 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
try the library instead. Bars are an awful place to meet people. If you meet someone one on one, they are less likely to act this way.
2006-08-22 17:23:06 · answer #7 · answered by feathereafter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're in a bar trying to get laid, would you go for the I'm a hot stud or I'm a math professor look?
2006-08-18 21:58:58 · answer #8 · answered by Mack L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋