We have been together for 8 years. I am divorced with 4 kids. I turned down alot of other men for him. I have caught him repeatedly looking at teen porn, both internet and mags. The last time I found a "barely legal" mag, I got mad and I went to a bar. A guy started hitting on me. I would not give him my number but told him my name and he looked it up and tried to call me. My boyfriend answered the phone and was pretty upset. He swore he that he would never look at porn again. I married him in March and now found 2 mags, "barely legal" & "finally legal" in his work truck under the seat and a condom missing. He says he used the condom on himself. I should add that although I think I must look okay for my age since I still get hit on in places like the grocery store and my kids get teased about having a MILF, I am a very insecure person, so I maybe it's me. I was very up front from the start about my baggage and not wanting a relationship, so why was he want to marry so bad?
2006-08-18 19:52:28 · 13 answers · asked by mt3437 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
its not u but this sort of thing really needs to be addressed your husband needs to be monitored he is acting like a perv and having kids in the house would really scare me if he doesnt quite maybe u should get rid of him asap your kids do not need this in their life and could he be a danger to them?please be careful
2006-08-18 20:09:05 · answer #1 · answered by nvvlewis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-07-20 14:05:06 · answer #2 · answered by Terence 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These are issues that should've been resolved before getting married. You knew he was this type of person before so why should you expect any different? About the condoms and using it on himself (lol) I'm sorry, but that has GOT TO BE the most outrageous excuse I've heard yet and THAT is what you should be more concerned about. You need to sit him down and demand some honest answers. You have to remember that you couldn't change him then and you probably can't change him now unless he really wants to. Unfortunately, his history says otherwise. I really don't know what to say other than you can try counseling together to see if this is going to help your case. I don't know if this has anything at all to do with your insecurities but that's not the issue.
The issue here is he's up to something and you need to find out what it is.
2006-08-18 20:08:58 · answer #3 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What's this? A man finds young, nubile women attractive? The scandal!
Don't get all uppity. There is no limit to a man's sex drive. You could have mind blowing sex five days a week and he'd still jerk off on the other two. That's basic biology. Men like porn, it's a scientific fact. But you're the one he's with, and as long as he's not chasing after these young girls you have nothing to worry about.
2006-08-18 20:09:08 · answer #4 · answered by koresh419 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you need to slip on a tight mini skirt have a few drinks.Now if that doe sent bring him around there's not much hope for ya"ll.I'm single and would be more than happy to help you out.One more thing,What's a fine lady going to a bar for all alone,Just thinking.Sweet dream.s.
2006-08-18 20:36:11 · answer #5 · answered by cjett63 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him. Explain to him how you feel and ask him the questions that are running through your mind.
As far as the condom goes, it's possible that he was telling you the truth, especially if it was lubricated. I have used condoms to masturbate.
I'm no psychologist but have been told that it is healthy to fantasize, so as long as he isn't fooling around or lying to you, then there doesn't seem to be anything wrong.
2006-08-18 20:13:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you can install a porn filter software like NetDog on the computer,that help you to block all porn sites quitely in the background when he's surfing on the internet. http://www.netdogsoft.com
2006-08-18 23:12:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have kids and i hope not girls. Let him go he is too old to be looking at TEEN PORN. He needs help
2006-08-18 20:42:35 · answer #8 · answered by sazzybmt 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Lose him.He sounds like a sexual preditor.Do you really want to put your children in that position?Having sexual intentions towards "barely leagl" girls is not healthy.Although common.So are rapists and child molesters.You can find someone ten times better than that **** bag and you can make it without him.You sound like a very intelligent woman and if you got it baby then work it for someone who wants it.
2006-08-18 20:04:01 · answer #9 · answered by sunkissed299 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
maybe try and enjoy looking at the porn with him...
2006-08-18 22:58:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋