Really, would it hurt you that much to take a little initative? If you like the guy, why do you always have to play games instead of coming out and saying, "Hey, you want to go out some time?"
Is it really that hard?
2006-08-18 19:49:31 · 20 answers · asked by brandon 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It's become more acceptable but the norm is that the man still ask. Is it fair now that the sexes are now considered equal, well no but even so a woman now has the best of both worlds. She has the equality yet is treated as a lady.
I'll be the first one to admit women weren't treated right in the past but it's come full circle and then some. Just ask a divorced man that tries to get custody of his children in court.
It's gone beyond full circle to the point that the man is infact underpriveledged. Don't let that bother you while you sweat bullets to ask her out and then pay for dinner though. :)
2006-08-18 20:11:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the defense of all women. We have been brainwashed since the day we were born to play a certain role. Yes, we were taught to play "GAMES" not only from our Mothers and yes probably more by our Fathers, lets net even get into how the books, movies etc. portray us. We,as women have been taught to be good little girls, if not and we show some initiative, alot, not all men will take it the wrong way. I would love to change it all but no matter how many bras we have burned it still remains the same. We are the pursued not the pursuers. You would always wonder, if she asked you out, how many other guys did she ask out before you. Was it you that was the special one to her or does she go around chasing all kinds of guys. How loose is this girl etc. etc. You sound like you're a pretty secure guy but can you honestly say you wouldn't wonder how many she asked out before?
2006-08-18 20:46:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not hard at all. I met my partner of 5 years at a nightclub and got his number first. I rang him two days later and organised a night out with him, his mates and my friends. I havent looked back and im now preggo with our first baby. Not all women wait for the man to ask as u can see in my example.
It wasnt that i wanted to take charge, it was only because i knew i liked him and was sure what i wanted when i first met him. He has thanked me several times for even going to the trouble to ring him in the first place lol....he shouldnt need to. I should thank him, he is the most kind and gorgeous person i have ever come across in my life.
2006-08-18 19:54:50 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To a girl it is "really that hard".
Girls are not socialized as we guys are. Girls are expected to allow the man to take the initiative. Whenever a girl takes the bull by the horns and ask a guy out (as some do) it is usually when they realize that the guy is shy and need a little stimulus and would welcome the help. The shy guy wants to ask the girl out but is afraid to, his tongue become tied in knots and the girl knows it - they usually know what we want to do.
A woman has to be very careful in a society which labels women as being cheap and easy to get if she does not behave according to societal norms. When a girl is perceived to be hard to get she becomes more of a challenge and is treated with respect - normally. The way we are socialized makes us (men) see those women who would ask us out as being easy to get and try to take advantage of the situation we try to take them to bed when we go out on a date, after all is that not what she wants she asked us out didn't she? So even if a girl is dying to go out with you what she may do is try to create a situation which will give you the opportunity to ask her out, in that way she gets what she wants with her dignity remaining intact.
2006-08-18 20:25:26 · answer #4 · answered by Cuttle fish 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it just means that the girl can decide if your worth all the trouble or not.
Personally, I don't play games if I like a guy.
If a girl is getting offers from plenty of guys, then what is the incentive for her to ask any guy? She can pick and choose whoever she likes.
Don't expect a girl to hand herself to you on a plate...unless she's the type you pay for...its all down to proving that you want to make the effort for her.
2006-08-18 20:17:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess because if you ask the guy out then they have power over you. I suppose. But I had done that in the past (i mean past) and in the first or second date I would have sex with the guy. So it was not good. But the funny thing about myself is when I would have sex with the guy, I don't want to see him ever again. I don't know why but what I am going to do!
2006-08-18 19:55:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No but women often like guys to take the initiative show some interest. You get what I'm saying. Old school baby.
2006-08-18 19:54:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Funny. I do that. I have asked 2 guys so far. The funny part is they normally think I am being mean and teasing them until we are kissing then they know I'm not kidding.
The reason behind this is I think boys don't expect it to happen so they are like in shock.
2006-08-18 19:53:51 · answer #8 · answered by SummerRain Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I like a man, I will flirt with him. He needs to take it from there. It may be 2006 but I love feeling and being treated like a woman.
Now, if he doesn't take the hint, I will invite him over or out to eat.
Just nicer to be invited.....
2006-08-18 19:55:32 · answer #9 · answered by Mary D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course!because that is the old fashion way!but the women of new genenaration can do ask a guy to hang out.it depends on thier mood and if they really want such guy,they will make a move too!
2006-08-18 19:55:22 · answer #10 · answered by richel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋