I am visiting my home town. There is an ex I have never gotten over and I looked him up on my space and his life is so great and he is so in love and all my other old guys are happy and my girl friends went to college and Im young and knocked up with no future. How can I quit being so jealous and get over this one particular ex?
2006-08-18 19:36:56 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Admit that your miserable and still in love with him and cry with grief. And get over your grief for lost love.
Do not give in to your desire to arrange an accidental meetingwith him to see if he still feels for you -- don't try to escape from grief with fantasy.
A new love will also cure you. So see a lot of people and go to a lot of social functions.
2006-08-18 19:48:05 · answer #1 · answered by urbancoyote 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you are feeling is normal and you shouldn't be cutting short your future just yet. There are lots of young women who got pregnant at a young age. What could make you different is what choices you make after you have your baby--which will be your whole world so those choices have to be good ones. You are in control of your life, no one else is. If you want a sweet life like those people that you mentioned then make the choices that are going to get you there. Like going further in school is an example. I don't know the rest of your situation but nothing is impossible. If you don't want a crappy future then it is totally up to you to not make it that way. Don't think about that ex...because he is in the past and that is something you will need to start fresh from.
2006-08-19 02:45:02 · answer #2 · answered by ~carmie~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be a hormonal thing right now. I have times when I think back and wonder what might've been, but then I look at my son, he's just over 6 months, and I wouldn't trade it for anything.
I feel just like you describe alot. There's one ex in particular, and I never see him, except we talk occasionally on myspace, but he's going to college now, and so are most of my friends, or they've already graduated and moved away, and I've moved back into my parents house (we're renting their downstairs apartment), and everyone else seems like their life is taking off while I'm gonna be stuck here forever.
But when my little boy gets up from his naps and I go to his crib, he'll be sitting there, grinning at me, and I know that if I had taken a differnt path, he wouldn't be here now, and I don't even care about my ex or my friends in college or moving away.
As your (and my!) life gets back on track, those feelings will go away slowly, and eventually, they'll stop, I'm sure.
Email me if you want to, we seem to have some things in common.
2006-08-19 02:49:43 · answer #3 · answered by Queen Queso 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
QUIT THINKING OF YOURSELF AS KNOCKED UP AND REALIZE THAT YOU ARE CARING FOR A WONDERFUL CHILD.
SECOND, QUIT DWELLING ON THE PAST. YOU CAN'T CHANGE IT. START LOOKING FORWARD TO YOUR FUTURE WITH YOUR BABY. YOU DON'T NEED A MAN TO BE HAPPY. IF HE IS IN LOVE BE HAPPY FOR HIM. AND BE HAPPY FOR ALL OF YOUR FRIENDS. YOU ALL MIGHT HAVE TAKEN DIFFERENT ROADS WITH YOUR LIVES, BUT IT WILL ALWAYS BE WORTH IT IF YOU LIVE YOUR LIFE THE WAY THAT YOU THINK IS RIGHT.
YOU HAVE A FUTURE, YOU JUST HAVE TO WORK FOR IT. NO ONES GETS THE PERFECT LIFE. EVERYONE STRUGGLES, BUT IF YOU TRY YOU CAN TURN YOUR LIFE AROUND AND BE HAPPY.
2006-08-19 02:46:01 · answer #4 · answered by Kristy C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey you do have a future your going to be a kids mother that's a wonderful thing. its time to grow up and face your life not be jealous of your friends. you made the choice to have unprotected sex now you have to take responsibly for it.....your baby will thank you for be there for him or her make the baby the number one thing in your life because the baby will be thinking that there is no other in your life but him or her so be your kids mom and not a silly girl you did that one already and got knocked up....
2006-08-19 02:55:01 · answer #5 · answered by 4stringthndr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just move on and find a guy for urself like ur ex has found someone for him it will all work out if u have no future try going to college to get a good eduacation and get a good job that would be called a future
2006-08-19 02:42:26 · answer #6 · answered by Ashley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are plenty of fish in the sea. Try to forget and carry on with your life. Find some hobbies to involve yourself into. I am sure u can find somebody better and be happy too.
2006-08-19 02:49:56 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u just have to remember there r other men out there and even some that r better then the one ur hung up on. just stay strong and focus on u and that baby. ur life will turn around so hang in there.
2006-08-19 02:45:46 · answer #8 · answered by emilybailey1980 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eats some pickles and get some rest. You are sleeping for two now,
2006-08-19 02:41:36 · answer #9 · answered by toooextreeeme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
accept it first, you need to free yourself from such envy and jealousy or you never will face them clear of anything
2006-08-19 02:41:38 · answer #10 · answered by leelee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋