Her friend comes from Sweden and is staying for 3 weeks at ours,
would I be nuts to refuse or should I risk ruining everything?........This was all my wife's idea !
2006-08-18 19:31:13 · 21 answers · asked by '47' 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It always sounds like a good idea, but somehow always ends bad. Honestly if you are going to do it, do it with someone you wont see again. BUT you need to ask why do you two need to go outside your marriage? What are you missing? And think of the worst case scenario ...is it worth your marriage?
2006-08-18 20:36:01 · answer #1 · answered by Carey L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First- take five minutes to do your "yes yes yes" dance and settle down for some serious thought...
Alright, a threesome can be a major fantasy-fulfiller for everyone involved if done correctly- however, it can be a decision that hurts feelings if not approached carefully.
I would suggest two things. One, openly, honestly, and frankly discuss this with your wife. Find out what her thoughts, hopes, and desires for this situation would be. You said she hinted. This needs to be a solid yes or no before anything else happens.
Two, discuss it between all THREE of you. Decide the sorts of things that are involved in any sexual encounter (protection, limits, etc.) as well as a few extras such as
1) A safeword. Just in case anybody wants/needs to immediately stop things for any reason.
2) What the limits/rules are. Are you going to be hurt if you get left out? What about the friend? Or your wife? There is potential for emotional hurt here- so talk about it, and make sure EVERYONE is included.
3) Post-threesome bliss- is this a one-time thing? A every-day-all-three-weeks thing? If, during those three weeks, two of the three want to get together alone, is that allowed?
All things considered, threesomes can be fun exciting things. Just be honest, be open, and be truthful.
Oh, and if you decide to sleep three to a bed, may I suggest:
http://www.shmeng.com/modules.php?op=modload&name=News&file=article&sid=636
2006-08-18 19:51:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I run a resort where this is quite normal, I have had a few experiences myself and found it to be better kept as a fantasy. Make 100 percent certain that your wife never says, "I was testing you." Even if that's not in her mind at the moment, she could develop regrets later. If you go through with it, only do things that your wife has allowed in your rule making beforehand. Many couples have fun in hedonism, check out my 360, but only if you are a mature adult, one that can accept that not all people follow your rules. .
2006-08-18 20:50:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok seriously. yeah the idea of a threesome with a hot foreign girl seems like a fantasy come true, but in all reality would you really want to do it? obviously you are having doubts, or you wouldnt be asking this question. say you do do it, would you really like the vision of your wife, the woman you love, the woman who you made a monogomous commitment with, having sex with another person? and vice versa in your wifes situation. your wife may become very jealous, or maybe she'll feel the pressure of having to do it again if her friend comes to visit. in my opinion, you shouldnt do it. but if you decide to, maybe take it step-by-step. like dirty talk to each other, then watch a pornographic film with a threesome; whatever you're comfortable with. but before you go and just make a huge decision like this, i'd think and talk it over with your wife first.
2006-08-18 19:48:43 · answer #4 · answered by confusedinohio 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I've had a 3-some with a woman and her husband and I found it to be ackward at first to say the least. I wasn't sure if kissing was allowed etc. But after the next few times We did it like rabbits, all the hangups were gone. It's one thing to have two dicks to satisfy the girl, but two ******* and 1 **** would be a little easier to take. I say go for it!
2006-08-18 20:00:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Introducing a relationship to polygamy is fraught with problems including trust, self esteem, etc. You risk eroding the fundamental principles of the relationship itself. Some people can make an open lifestyle work for their relationship. However, both people have to be brought into it strongly and both people have to be secure in their love, trust and sexuality.
2006-08-18 19:41:51 · answer #6 · answered by Wolfie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The idea sound good but this kinda person scares me cos what if she wants to hv threesome with another guy n u...it's a back fire....It's not worth it.....maybe at present she is excited abt it but long run it may ruin both yr lives....I think it's better to stick to yr marriage vows.....god is watching...n it's very nice to screw another women.....not the same to watch another man screwing yr wife.
2006-08-18 19:49:52 · answer #7 · answered by Ynot78 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems she's attempting to desperately draw close onto their relationship (with one ex or the two), no count what they ask of her. convince her how undesirable of an theory it rather is. She could attempt and locate somebody remarkable for her. supply up on her exes. they do no longer look nicely worth it.
2016-09-29 10:40:17 · answer #8 · answered by schugmann 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but i would agree ground rules first.
It might completely kill your relationship
It might lead to exotic dungeon fun
You cant have a 3som and take it back
If you want/need to do it again, or if she does, it could kill your sex life.
I would probably as her if she was bi, staight out. I would also say that it wont be a one time thing, and point out, that if either of you enjoy it, its going to have to become part of your relationship
2006-08-18 23:43:30 · answer #9 · answered by yeah well 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. I don't believe you.
2. If you are telling the truth your wife is despirate to do her best best friend - and needs an excuse.
2006-08-18 19:39:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋