My boyfriend doesn believe in having children without marriage, he calls them bastards because they won't conceived after marriage. I want to have a baby but he says we aren ready. To me he sounds like the girl and me the boy
2006-08-18 19:23:53 · 10 answers · asked by jen 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Even though I believe that children can be born out of wedlock and be perfectly healthy and fine, I will have to say that I do agree with your boyfriend that you two are not ready for children (if not simply for the reason that he is not ready) because you don't seem to care about his opinion. I am sure you do and you are just trying to make a point here, but you both must sit down and really think it through before you have a child.
If you have a child with this man, you two will be bonded for the rest of your life. If you aren't willing to make a commitment to be married to this man (a commitment that is pretty easily broken nowadays) then what makes you think you can make such a commitment as to have a child of his?
2006-08-18 19:33:47 · answer #1 · answered by Deja Entendu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your bf has brains. Having children without the benefit of marriage is a burden on the children who may have to explain an embarassing situation. Sure, they'll be used to it, but do you want your children worldly and hardened to the cruelty of the world as such an early age. Usually parents try to protect their children the best they can...and of course, you wouldn't want children out of wedlock with a man who would consider them bastards.
2006-08-19 02:51:22 · answer #2 · answered by butrcupps 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend sounds like he isn't ready and it shouldnt be forced upon him. If that is his belief then there isn't anything that will change his decision without hurting the relationship. Wanting kids isn't a bad thing however if only one person wants them and the other doesn't then maybe the relationship still needs time to grow instead and in time he will make a decision about it.
2006-08-19 02:32:54 · answer #3 · answered by ~carmie~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend lacks the better terms for children born out of wedlock, they are angels, miracles, God's gift... It's understandable to wait until after marriage to have children. So the question is, "is he ready for marriage and kids?" If not, get to steppin', girlfriend.
2006-08-19 02:35:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriends right, if you won't marry the person why would you have a child with them? A child IS a life long commitment and attachment to the other parent.
2006-08-19 02:31:02 · answer #5 · answered by 1 Supermom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like the smart one.... you should be married before commiting to a life long responsibility such as parenting children.
2006-08-19 02:29:52 · answer #6 · answered by smiley_girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just think...when having a child...you need to have a home big enough for the family, a good job to provide everyhting and love to be given everyday...it's best if you get married first because having a child before marriage...you wouldn't be prepared...it's best for both of you to wait
2006-08-19 02:34:16 · answer #7 · answered by Princess Answers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since when is a child out of wedlock the cool thing? Listen to your b/f he sounds like he has a good head on his shoulders
2006-08-19 02:44:51 · answer #8 · answered by Jessica 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no... this sounds pretty typical ;p
seems like girls always wanting a baby... but bf probably doesn't want a child for awhile from the sounds of it.
2006-08-19 02:30:08 · answer #9 · answered by WhiteHat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
to me its not right to have kids out of marriage ,it is deffinitly the wrong thing to do one thing is you may not stay with your bf,wich means he would technicly be a basterd child,and why would you want to have a kid out of a love less or lovelost relation ship to me that is cold harted to have a child before your married and please do not force him to have a kid before your married.
2006-08-19 02:32:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋