I found out today that I am a little over 4 months along, all the while I was having periods, I knew you could spot but complete periods for the first four months, worse, the daddy isn't around and I don't want to tell him, he will accuse me of trapping him. advise?
2006-08-18 19:05:39 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You need to tell him and that the only reason that you are telling him is so that he is aware that he is going to be a father and that you will raise the baby on your own but just remember that you can get him to pay child support. Bringing up a baby is not cheap and every penny helps.
2006-08-18 19:13:02 · answer #1 · answered by Gabe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have u gone to the doctor yet?? I know exactly how u feel. I have a one year old little girl and i didn't find out i was pregnant until i was 5 months along. Thankfully everything was okay with her because i hadnt been to the doc yet. About the father of the baby...u should tell him no matter what. I mean everyone deserves to know that they have a child. but it all depends on what kind of person he is as to how he will react, but if he has any feelings what so ever, he will love and take care of the baby anyway.
2006-08-19 02:17:13 · answer #2 · answered by manda_gardner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a single father, raising my 11 year old daughter. I think it is important to a child to know who his/her real parents are, good or bad. My daughters mother and I were never married so when she was born I really didn't have any rights to her, although I did have her legitimated. Her mother tried keeping me from seeing my baby, sometimes months at a time. She thought it would hurt me and yes at the time it did but I never gave up. I started fighting for custody. Very few men are unable to beat a mother outright in court but I did. 12 days before my daughter turned 5 I was awarded custody. Now I have got to hear my daughter talk about how it made her feel when her mother wouldn't let us talk or see one another. It only hurts the children.
2006-08-19 02:24:28 · answer #3 · answered by tigerlover24 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah you can have your period while pregnant, sucks doesn't it? If the daddy isn't around and he doesn't want to be then at least get what that baby deserves, his money (if he has any) all you have to do is go to family court and file for child support, if he thinks your trapping him well simple get a parternity test....solves all!
2006-08-19 16:49:30 · answer #4 · answered by Tara J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wish i could email you this question do you think that the baby's dad will want to help you take care of the baby. for 101/2 years my oldest son didn't know his dad and boy was he better off. you really need to think hard about this guy because if he is going to accuse you of trapping him you will be better off without him. i raised my son with help from my parents. my dad took my son under his wing. i have a good kid. he is eighteen and just graduate high school in may. it will be hard but sometimes kids grow up better without one of the parents. you can get all kinds of assistance to help you with your baby. check into your local social service center for help. it's fun and alot of hard work but you will love raising your child even if you raise him or her alone. i have enjoyed every moment with my oldest son. also take your vitamins i wish i could talk to you face to face so i could tell you more. the only regret i have is who my son's father is. i don't call him daddy because anyone can be a father, but it takes a lot to be a daddy and a man. i haven't found him yet either (a man!)
2006-08-19 02:24:18 · answer #5 · answered by ro gulley rat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not tell him? Maybe he'll want to be involved, you never know until you give him the info. Trapped? Into what? If he's old enough to have sex, he's old enough to know that it can make a baby. It takes 2 people to get pregnant.
2006-08-19 02:10:57 · answer #6 · answered by 1 Supermom 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with sexymama. What matters is your baby. I'm kind of in the same situation, but my only concern now is mines and my baby's health. Tell him, if he wants to be there...fine. If not...fine. My mom raised 3 by her self and we turned out fine. Never depend on a man for anything.
2006-08-19 02:16:16 · answer #7 · answered by Brooklyn T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter if he thinks you are trying to trap him. It was his choice not to use protection. Tell him your not trying to trap him. Your just going to hold him accountable. If he doesn't want nothing to do with you or the child then get child support from him.
2006-08-19 05:05:54 · answer #8 · answered by aries:) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if i were you...(which im not and i dont know the whole story) i would tell him that you are prego and that he can demand a dna test when baby is born if he wants to...tell him its his baby and you dont want him back because of the baby...tell him your keeping the baby and thats that....if you dont want child support (please dont decide that now) then maybe not telling him would be best .....if you want child suport and the babys bioligicol father involived in your childs life you cant just spring it on the father when the child is you know 2 or older its nto right...now or never ..thats you 2 choices both with consiquinces and both with rewards
2006-08-19 02:13:03 · answer #9 · answered by mommaof2girls&1onway 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Accussations should roll right off you. You know its not true and thats what and all that matters. If you wnat him to be a part of your baby's life, then tell him. Follow your heart/instincts for the welfare of your baby, no longer just your own.
2006-08-19 02:13:40 · answer #10 · answered by chocoholic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋