An odd little situation with my ex-girlfriend?

Question

My girlfriend who I loved dearly, and still do left me about a month ago. She has been seeing someone else but she still calls me all the time. The other day her current boyfriend found out that she and I were still talking (although still not together). I told her that I loved her but that I would stay out of her life if i was causing her problems. She said no and that if he had a problem with she and I talking he would be out the door. Why would she care so much about talking to me? If she is so willing to drop him rather than stop talking to me why doesnt she just do it and the two of us reconcile?

Answer 1

shawnahj, you are a cow. If you can't come up with something constructive, then GO AWAY little girl!!

As to the question - even when a relationship breaks down, you can't automatically dismiss feelings that you might have had for someone for years. I've recently split with my fella after 6 years, but although I can't live with him any more, that doesn't stop me from still loving him, caring about what happens to him etc. We keep in touch by text now and again, but not too much 'cos the split is still a bit fresh.
It all depends on why you two split up in the first place? Something that could be reconciled? Love is a funny old game. Hope you both end up with what you want anyway. Good luck babe. x

Answer 2

Why would you want someone that broke up with you. I guarantee you that she would not have any respect for you if you just accepted her back after she broke your heart. Show some self-respect, and tell her she made her decision when she walked away from you, and now you feel it is better if you keep your distance. Make her respect you, stop the communication. She has not had any time to miss you, because you still allow her to keep in touch. Let her miss you, and then maybe in time if the two of you decide that your breakup was a mistake, let her come to you. Be a man, give her some time to realize what she did. If you love her, you want her to love and respect you in return.

Answer 3

I was in the same situation about a year ago except i was the girl doing it to my ex(or in this case you.) I still lloved him just didnt feel the connection there. I called him even when my current b/f disagreed but learned to hide it. I know it was wrong but was the only way to stay connected to my ex. The only bad thing i got from his is my current ex basically left me like i did my ex and i loved him dearly, he now calls me once in awhile and i dont know if he still cares or actually is just playing head games. So only you will really know if she still cares or is playing games. Go with what your first instinct tells you! I wish you All the best!!

Answer 4

I have this same exact problem, the best i can figure is that she likes you and or loves you still. That and you were both in love i assume and probably did a lot together, like some one else said friends, and really close ones. What I'd do it just tell her everything, ask her if she wants to try again, if you love her, and if if doesn't work don't let yourself linger. Also it seems she might just be confused, I know mine is.

Answer 5

She likes you, but wishes time for whatever else to peer how a lot you can stand by using - OR - she wants to have you ever as a friend best and is intelligent adequate to no longer take anyone else telling her who she will and are not able to speak to. In case you've only been aside 1 month - she's moved on approach to quick and hasn't given herself sufficient time to regulate to altering loyalties. Despite the fact that you do reconcile, you must step again from the place you have been and restart the entire thing - romane, dancing, dinner, quiet walks - anything, just step back and take it slower

Answer 6

She likes you, however demands time for whatever else to look how so much you'll be able to stand by way of - OR - she wishes to have you ever as a pal most effective and is shrewd ample not to take anybody else telling her who she will be able to and can not speak to. If you've gotten most effective been aside one million month - she's moved on option to rapid and hasn't given herself ample time to regulate to replacing loyalties. Even should you do reconcile, you ought to step again from in which you have been and restart the entire factor - romane, dancing, dinner, quiet walks - anything, simply step again and take it slower

Answer 7

I kinda did that once. I wanted to be with him, but I wanted him to act differently about a few things, and the guy I was seeing was just a rebound kinda thing, not serious at all.

Think about why you broke up in the first place, and that should give you a hint as to what she might be wanting. We broke up because he didn't want me to hang out with my friends instead of him all the time, but he thought he could go with his buddies and I'd sit at home.

Answer 8

She still likes you partner. Don't make a big deal about the other guy and just make her feel good about talking to you. Things will work out naturally.

Answer 9

She left you...and is seeing someone else....but she calls you all the time...and she told him he would be out the door if he didn't want you and her to talk on phone....gee.....that sounds really
fu**ked up to me. Sounds like she wants her cake and eat it too and is stringing you along. She sounds like a flake to me. What do you think?

Answer 10

your her friend. friends come before boyfriends.. if she enjoys talking to you that much... you must be a *best friend* she obviously still has feelings for you but doesnt want a relationship with you bcuz of your past. let her go her way. continue talking to her but dont expect anything.