Theres this girl who lives right next door to me and i REALLY like her. We hang out every day at each others houses and we are pretty good freinds. We are both 15 and are in the same grade. I want to know if she likes me anything more then just a freind. She is better looking then me (im not THAT bad to look at, im just not a 10) We hug everytime we see each other and we joke around, but she does the same thing with the other nieghbors, but she is with me more then them. She always talks about other guys in front of me like im another girl. One night we DID make out and i got to third base, but its never happened again, we dont even talk about it (is that bad??)....SO I REALLY NEED HELP!!DOES SHE LIKE ME??how do i find out?im really shy and im afraid to ask because of what she might say.
sorry this was sooo long.
2006-08-18 17:56:05 · 15 answers · asked by rocker 1 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
she probably just likes you as a friend. your make-out was just experimentation. you are fifteen and that is what fifteen year olds do. just ask her if yoy really want to know-- worse case scenario, she says no.
2006-08-18 18:02:11 · answer #1 · answered by asmithisluv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a girl makes out with you, she is attracted to you. I've never made out with a guy I'm not attracted to. She sounds like she is just not sure if she wants to turn the attraction into a relationship.
It sounds like you have played it pretty cool and not pushed her, which is a smart move while you are figuring out what you want to do. You also have a good way of communicating (based on the way you wrote the question), so I would recommend being honest with her. It will take courage, but just tell her that you like her and you want to know if she might want to try out dating. Tell her if she is not interested that way, you will be a little bit hurt, but would still be her friend.
Either way, she will respect you for being honest and straight forward with her. I know it is really hard to gather up the courage, but if you wait around and never find out, you will regret it. I always look back on my teen years and regret what I didn't do, not what I did.
If it doesn't work it, you can still be good friends. The make out incident proved that you both have the ability to move past awkward events and maintain a friendship.
It takes some work to get past the uncomfortable initial moments, but I have seen many friends go through issues like this. Some end up dating, some don't, but many remain friends because what they like about each other is still there.
Good luck, and remember, she will be lucky to have a good person like you pursuing her!
2006-08-19 01:11:30 · answer #2 · answered by MissM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aw! Young love, sigh. Okay, do you trust your parents? Why don't you talk to them (leave out the part about making out though mmkay?) Seriously, they'll probably have lots of good advice and yes, you might get "the talk" but then it's over and done with.
Other than that, why don't you just go for a walk or something, maybe bring her a few cute flowers or something like that and just ask her if she feels the same way about you as you do her. Believe me, she'll respect your confidence and she'll be glad you didn't just beat around the bush or stand there and shuffle your feet like a fool, LOL!
Good luck! Go get em tiger!
2006-08-19 01:04:11 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awww you seem so sweet, but no need to be shy. You should tell her that you like her. It won't freak her out. You'd be surprised at what she might feel about you. She may be in the same situation as you. She seems nice and it's better to say hey so and so, I want to tell you something, and tell her this in private when you both have plenty of time. Tell her how you feel. And just because she isn't talking about the kissing part, it is not bad. You don't mention it either, so she might think maybe you regret it and don't want to bring it up. Tell her and just be yourself. If her feelings are the same about you, she'll say so. :)
2006-08-19 01:04:58 · answer #4 · answered by Natalie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably likes you, but being 15 and gorgeous (as you say she is) means she is probably just really high on life and all the attention she is getting from everyone, so the amount of thought she puts into your make-out session might not be the same as how much you put into it. In other words, it might be too much to expect her to slow down and focus just on you. Don't take it personal.
2006-08-19 01:40:24 · answer #5 · answered by aj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well of course she likes you. All you have to do now is start showing her that you like her more and then let her know how much you like her. Tell her that you want to go out with her and then tell her that you really love your friendship with her and don't want to lose that but, you also have feelings for her as a Girlfriend to since she made out with you. Tell her that meant something to you and then see what she says. Good Luck!
2006-08-20 19:44:28 · answer #6 · answered by SecretUser 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound like such a nice young man...
i think this girl really likes you..maybe she is the shy one. maybe she is embarrassed over the make-out session...try to get alone with her again and just hold her hand and talk...tell her how special she is to you...and when the school dances start make sure you ask her...i bet she will be happy about that.
being good friends is a good start for a romantic relationship.
2006-08-19 04:29:49 · answer #7 · answered by intelligentbooklady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if i were you i would get another girl in the picture just for a couple of days and bring her around the girl you like.. and you'll know if the girl you like is jelous than you know she likes you.. or even better you could like write her a letter and wait for her to come over to your house and get up and let it accidently fall out of your pucket or let it fall and make sure she can grab it.. than have her read it... i was shy with my boyfriend at first i would not even talk to him at first i would write him letters and he would write me back.
2006-08-19 01:04:20 · answer #8 · answered by Melinda D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like shes keeping her options open.It don't seem like she wants a relationship.I think shes just feeling the power of being a girl. at 15 you are super horney all the time and I think she just wanted to see what it was like to fool around. I wouldn't say to her that you like her unless she seems more interested in just being with you
2006-08-19 01:08:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't push it when you are 15 friends come and go it takes time just wait and you will see if it works out.
2006-08-20 12:40:28 · answer #10 · answered by Carol W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You let her become the friend oh man sieze your spot if you got to third she likes you the next time she says something about other boys say something like "So what happened to us?"
2006-08-22 22:13:44 · answer #11 · answered by forgetmaenot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋