I like to dress in womens clothing, but my wife doesn't like it. She says it makes me gay. I like to wear her silky panties and she gets mad. Yesterday I bought her a strap on to use on me and last night while I was in the shower she packed some clothes and left. How can I convince her to come back?
2006-08-18 17:53:08 · 16 answers · asked by kum-Bucket69 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I now have a mental image that is forcing my dinner back up.
2006-08-18 17:59:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My guess is that she just doesn't understand WHY you like dressing up in her clothes - have you ever sat down and really tried to explain it to her?
Unfortunately, most people think transvestites and gays are one and the same, but they're not. Being a transvestite is a fetish - being gay is a lifestyle.
Odds are your wife assumes you'll eventually leave her for another man, so she's beating you to the punch, so to speak. The best thing I can recommend for you to do is explain to her how much you love her and want to be with her, and then ease her into your fetish very, VERY slowly. Put away the strap-on, for now, and keep the panty-wearing to a minimum (in her presence, that is).
Keep in mind, though, that there may be nothing you can tell her that will make her understand - so prepare yourself for being single once again.
Good luck!
2006-08-18 18:15:49 · answer #2 · answered by CrazyOphelia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come back for what? You put her in the position of a sexual exploration that you didn't bother to talk to her about. What exactly did you expect?
You are not gay. What you are is a crossdresser. Most crossdressers are heterosexual. However, you're wife didn't sign up for that and she feels lied to and probably like you have lost your mind. You haven't but you know that this didn't just suddenly pop up, and you weren't honest with her. The man she thought she married, doesn't exist.
So, the next step is to get yourself some counseling, from a professional who is familiar with transgender issues who can help you realize that there is nothing wrong with you, and you aren't crazy (go online and search, you'll find one, or check your local Pride phone book.
You've lied to yourself and everyone else long enough, now be a man, grow up and learn to accept who you are.
2006-08-18 18:28:42 · answer #3 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are missing a fine distinction here...Your wife doesn't like your wearing HER clothes....you need to buy your own, but really hot stuff, and offer to loan them to her...she will be singing a different tune...she will have doubled her wardrobe all but overnight. AS for the straps...be very careful here, her idea of a good time could well be tying you up to the bed, getting dressed in some of these new clothes and going out by herself. Good luck
2006-08-18 18:10:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, your wife doesn't think you're crazy...she knows you are and kudos to her for taking a stand. If she wanted a women, she wouldn't be married to a man. If you want to come out of the closet, make sure it's your closet and not hers! Oh, and by the way...they are having a bra/panty sale at Macy's this weekend.....get your own!
2006-08-18 18:18:30 · answer #5 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok Dude you are in serious need of help. First, remove the anal apparatus and take off the panties, unless you are looking for a same sex relationship. If that's the case find you a bath house and go nuts. Chicks don't dig dudes who ram fake weenies where they don't belong. Just in case you were considering it, stay away from the hampsters
2006-08-18 18:08:08 · answer #6 · answered by absolute genious 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't make you gay, but you'll not convince her of that. You will have to keep this information as your private fantasy, she obviously isn't in to it. Go to the store and buy your own clothes. It may be too late for her, she may not forgive and certainly won't forget. In the future, follow my advice, unless of course you really are gay, then find a top.
2006-08-18 18:07:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well see the problem here is you should have shared your fetishes with your spouse before getting married. What you enjoy doing in your own home is your business. Just need to find the women who is into it as well...
2006-08-18 18:54:55 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say it but I think your screwed!! Might want to give up the girly clothes. Most women like masculinity compared to femininity. Good luck!
2006-08-18 17:59:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
maybe she's having a nice time without you. Give her a break she wanted to be married to a man not another woman! Get a grip.
2006-08-18 18:08:55 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋