i am totally addicted to this 3D instant messenger! these guys ask me if im single, and im not, but i cant stop aying that i am! i feel that this is causing problems with my social life, and my affection for my boyfriend! i love him, but this thing is addicting! tell me how 2 stop!
2006-08-18 17:51:19 · 15 answers · asked by NiChkoLe 2 in Games & Recreation ➔ Video & Online Games
People who become addicted to things like this are not so much addicted to the messenger but the attention and the positive feedback they get from the men. It could be that you have an issue with your self esteem. The issue may be obvious to you, such as being overweight, having small breasts, bad skin, a funny name, whatever, or it could be something deep seeded that you don't even recognize from some event that happened in your childhood.
A lot of people, especially young women, with self esteem issues end up becoming addicted to things like flirting, cheating on your boyfriend, chatting obsessively with men, and even things such as drugs and alcohol. You are using the attention received from the men to put a band-aid on a problem you may not yet recognize. Does your boyfriend do things to boost your self esteem? Does he tell you that you are beautiful, intelligent, worth something?
If your instant messaging habit is beginning to interfere with your offline life you might want to look into seeking professional help. A good therapist might help you to recognize things that cause you to seek out attention and help put them to bed.
Good luck!
2006-08-20 19:55:40 · answer #1 · answered by lain_xiii 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ah, it seems that you enjoy living a double life. I had the same problem once. But what you have to do is you just have to use strong willpower not to get on anymore. Stop talking to these people altogether and then stop using messenger. One day, your boyfriend will find out and that will be a horrible day for you, I swear. I think you just like knowing that people want you, and there's nothing wrong with that. But there is lots wrong with lying to everyone involved about being single and also lying to hide what you're doing. You're just gonna have to quit...that's all there is to it. Maybe you feel like your boyfriend isn't affectionate enough. Maybe that's the underlying problem...that you're searching for someone to lavish you with affection. And there's nothing wrong with that either. We all want to feel wanted.
2006-08-18 17:59:18 · answer #2 · answered by Jenn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have your internet disconnected for a while. Then figure out what it is that is making you escape to this other outlet, and get away from your boyfriend. Obviously, there's something about him that is missing that you're looking for elsewhere. I'd say you have a problem in both directions.
2006-08-18 17:59:45 · answer #3 · answered by Jamie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should start by writing in your profile that you're attached.
Maybe you would like to introduce your boyfriend to this social circle.
Perhaps you should tell ur family/friends about this, their influence can discourage you.
Lastly, just refrain from using this software.
2006-08-18 17:58:34 · answer #4 · answered by VoidZerO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you have to do is say you have a boyfriend if you don't want the extra attention. But you're still young yet, so no worries even if you do say you're single.
2006-08-18 17:56:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to stop living the double life and walk away and get in touch with your boyfriend.
2006-08-18 18:08:14 · answer #6 · answered by renov8ter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just turn it off and never return. Spend some time in the real world for awhile!!!!!!
2006-08-18 17:57:28 · answer #7 · answered by Geist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
block that site, with parental controls, or just disconnect your internet, hope it helps. then again, you could spend the time you usually spend on the computer with your boyfriend, calling him or im ing him. or going out with him.
2006-08-18 17:57:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
walk away from the machine and spend time with your boyfriend. just walk away.
2006-08-18 17:57:24 · answer #9 · answered by asmithisluv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if its comfortable then it cant be dependancy. If its an dependancy then it cant be comfortable. same as you cant get 0.5 drown. My dependancy is the internet and these days yahoo solutions :-) and wats yours?
2016-10-02 06:47:19 · answer #10 · answered by mcclister 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋