Am marred for more than 10years, but from the day one, we never have a common opinion about anything, we always have different view in everything. I just keep the marriage going just for my 3kids only, now the last one reached to 5yrs, and my kids like to stay with me. Should I still continue this relationship? I never enjoyed my life, where she always think about her own goodness and even jump the beds, so what is the choice for me?
2006-08-18 17:46:12 · 9 answers · asked by Jeff 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My concerns are:
1. legal implications in getting the div order
2. She always says she loves me very much
3. I am afraid for another marriage
and my marriage is an arranged one.
2006-08-20 01:06:29 · update #1
Honestly, i understand how you feel, as i'm aslo in the same situation...
If you mean "jump the beds" = "Sleeping with other man", i would suggest that you stop this relationship..
But if you can forgive her and just to be fair. would you try talking to her one last time, to see what is her decision instead of yours...
In my opinion, i am more concern of your kids instead of you and your wife... I was from a broken family, i know how it's like without a parents around... life was really difficult during the younger days (and i meant "really really" difficult)... Not one; either my mum or dad came to visit me when i'm down or being bullied, mentally tortured, etc....
You see what i meant... I'm not sure how's your situation...
All this are just my opinion, and it's for you to make a jugdement..
2006-08-19 22:58:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you have a choice to make. You can continue in a marriage where you are obviously very unhappy... or you can cut your losses and get out now. Holding a marriage together for the sake of the kids is in no one's best interests, least of all the kids.
After awhile, when kids start to get a little older they know what's going on...and they also know when their parents are fighting with one another and not getting along. It is much better for your kids to have 2 separate homes that are peaceful, than it is to have 1 home where everyone is unhappy and miserable all of the time.
2006-08-19 01:03:38 · answer #2 · answered by DG 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were a child, would you want your parents to stay together for your sake? When your children are adults, do you want them to know that you hated your life but didn't change it because you didn't want to upset them?
I do know this: It's better to have two happy parents in separate houses than it is to have two miserable parents in one house. Are you really prepared to go through divorce, custody battles, dividing assets, explaining things to the kids, all of that? What does your wife want?
You only have one life. Think about what you don't want to regret in your old age. Perhaps your wife would be happier without you, if you are so unhappy with her.
2006-08-19 02:09:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jump the beds...you mean cheating? That's not good - I think you should not stay together if you are unhappy. It's not good for the children.
There are many people with children that divorce and it is not easy on anyone, but perhaps some day you can meet a new woman who you can trust and love.
2006-08-19 01:09:57 · answer #4 · answered by Lake Lover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Staying married for the children is wrong. I think that if u dont love her and are not interested in making it work then you should get a divorce.
2006-08-19 01:25:20 · answer #5 · answered by Hilllbilly_gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know deep down that keeping a marriage just for the sake of the kids is wrong
2006-08-19 00:53:14 · answer #6 · answered by Iron Rider 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you marry her in the first place?
Divorce her.
2006-08-19 02:00:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
http://www.barbaradeangelis.com/advice.asp
2006-08-19 01:58:11 · answer #8 · answered by jimrich 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave you only have one life to live, don't you won't to be happy?
2006-08-19 01:00:40 · answer #9 · answered by Kas-O 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋