Breast Implants, my 18 y/o niece wants them, I say NO. Please help.?

Question

She is so beautiful the way she is. But she thinks her boobs should be bigger. Are there any ladies out there in their late thirties or forty or even early fifty's that can tell her what happens when you get older? I could be wrong, so please tell me too. She's a skinny little thing with very little boobs, and I love her so much, just like my kids, and I don't want her to something she'll regret later. If implants aren't dangerous, let me know, but I only want to hear from ladies that have had them for many years, so I can SHOW my niece what you say. Thank you SO much. Ron

Answer 1

Hello Ron -

I may not have the full answers you're seeking, but I do have a bit of insight: When I was 18 (I'm now 48) my breasts were very small and I was pretty depressed. I thought, "Wow, I'm probably fully grown, and this is going to be all the boobs I'm going to get." But 2 yrs. later, when I was 20, I had a growth spurt in which my boobs fairly suddenly went up to another cup size. Because of my own experience, if I had a daughter, I'd tell her to wait another couple of years and then we'd talk about it.

I'm not up on the latest studies regarding the safety of implants over the long term. It is my understanding that saline implants have a good safety record. If my daughter were in this predicament I'd consider letting her have implants. I'd make sure she understood that this is a serious and painful surgery. Painful. Did I mention "painful"? If she were the mature sort I'd probably begin looking for the best plastic surgeon I could find and not try to find a "deal".

The world is a hard place for women. Women are judged first by their appearance and any other assets, like intelligence, come after that. It's bogus, but it's true. I myself now have a nice C cup but yet I still nearly always wear a bra that adds yet another cup size. It makes you feel good and valuable and feminine and boosts your self-esteem. It provides status and power for women among other women. Larger breasts (within reason) make you a contender. As a man you understand the emphasis men place on breasts. Your neice is keenly aware of this also.

I commend you for taking the time to seriously and thoughtfully consider your neice's feelings. Good luck to you both!

Answer 2

I'm 34 now. I had barely an A cup when I turned 18 but when I hit 23, the boob fairy came and I shot up to a C cup. She isn't done growing.
She should also look at:
1. all the oopsy's out there from plastic surgery. Any surgery is dangerous and cutting into your body and possibly permanently damaging it at 18 - not a good call on a woman's call
2. Does she intend to have children? Is she aware she might not be able to breast feed.
3. Genetically, is there a history of breast cancer? It can be hard to find a tumor
4. Guys like breasts when they finally see them. Doesn't matter the size, as long as they get to touch them
5. The urge to have big breasts is actually driven by a near porn star image, a super-sexed image that women are falling for. Does she really want to look like Debbie does Dallas at 18?
6. IF she gets an truly too big size, she will look like 14 year old boy with breast implants. Not good.

Proportionate is so much better.

She should wait until she is 25 or so, she what her genetic code has planned for her and then make a choice.

Answer 3

I weigh 92 lbs and I'm 5' 1" tall... very skinny
I was always the smallest girl in my class and in high school I did not want to take showers because I was so flat chested. I wished my entire life for bigger breasts... finally when I was pregnant during my last months, I had enough to fill an "A" cup bra and was so excited. However, the minute I came home from the hospital they were smaller than they were to start with. I now have 2 daughters, both very small and if they want implants I will do what ever I can so they can get them. My self esteem has always been so bad and has not got any better over the years. One good thing, I won't be sagging when I get old.. there is nothing to sag! Breast cancer can be detected with or without implants...

Answer 4

Well, there is no evidence to suggest that implants are dangerous. I would suggest that she has a consult with a highly reputable surgeon specialising in the newer cohesive gel (gummy bear) implants. Unlike the regular silicone gel implants, the cohesive gel is much thicker and if the implant shell ruptures, the implant will not leak. She must understand that she may need further operations later down the line, as having breast mplants is a lifelong committment and yes, there can be complications down the line, such as capsular contracture, which is a hardening of the scar tissues around the implant. This can cause distortions in the breast tissue.

She needs to visit some cosmetic surgery information sites, where there is some very helpful information. I have posted such a site below, which also includes a message board, so she can talk to other females who are considering or have had breast augmentation. Take care.

Answer 5

You have to be 18. You know, they can do things with your skin to lift your breasts so that they won't sag without putting implants in them. The only reason that I'm suggesting that is that you may want to have children one day and it will break your heart not to have the choice to nurse your beautiful child due to implants. I'd look into a lift instead of filling out skin. BTW, I have very large breasts and I really do understand how it feels to want a change. I don't judge you and I am not anti surgery. However, I'm a COMPLETELY different person than I was at 18 and I have been blessed to nurse 3 childrlen. What's more .... THEY were blessed to receive breastmilk. Please, I am begging you for the sake of your children, think about this.

Answer 6

There was a study done recently that found that breast implants are not necessarily linked to cancer, but that they are linked to higher suicide rates.

More importantly, though...breast implants look gross.

Answer 7

Just tell if she was meant to have them she'd have em. and also tell her when she has kids she'll probably get them the natural way no men really like the feel of a false boob anyway and if they did they ain't normal to start with. She will only spoil herself in the end.

Answer 8

I would wait until she's at least 25 . . . so many girls boobs aren't fully developed at 18. (I haven't had any . . . I'm only a teen myself, I just thought I'd give my input.)

Answer 9

i'm a guy, but i know of ladies who have had boob jobs and then later had problems with their healthy. its going to be real nice and flash in the beginning but later on you're gonna get some health complications.. and if youre unlucky its gonna be real serious.

so forget the boob job!

Answer 10

Does she have a big booty?

Yes? ok...No Need for Implants.