We met once on a plane going to San Diego and have kept in touch all along. We both had children and both of us are divorcing now. I'm 41 and she's 36. We have been talking on the phone lately and feel she's into me but not sure yet. Please help me out here with advice because I don't want to mess up this exciting reunion.
2006-08-18 17:31:35 · 33 answers · asked by bromo5 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just be yourself!
2006-08-18 17:35:02 · answer #1 · answered by Jim 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Start with looking like you care. Go buy something new and great looking. Yes clothes do make an impression my man. I am sorry but men who dress like they haven't shopped for years send a message. I am sure she is going to look great, women put the day into it when the have a hot date. Next, plan the date make sure where you are meeting is a good place, where you both will fill comfortable talking and hanging out. Yes that takes planning. If you show up at Hooters because that all you know, you come off as someone who did not value this meeting. Think.....where can we go that has a comfortable ambiance, we can laugh and have drinks with a nice friendly feel. If you pick a place where they hurry you out or are constantly are BUGGING you the meeting will not be a smooth one. This is a little romance strategy on your part.
If you do all of the above, your meeting will be a success. We women notice attention to details. It will show that you valued the meeting and thought enough of her to plan it out. Like a business deal, strategic planning pays off.
2006-08-18 17:48:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if she is calling you that she likes you. So no matter how goofy you really are in person or I should say HoW goofy you think you are SHE LOVES your personality and I am sure WE all would if we met you. You seem very caring. I think you need to NOT put so much pressure on you. think of it as just hanging out with an old friend.
if you get stuck. ASK about her. Women love talking about themselves and their kids and their whatever blah blah blah... Pretend to listen or Really listen so you will have some more stuff to chat about. Remember take this from a female... if you act like you really care about her, she will love you. Take her some flowers maybe some Pink Roses for FRIENDSHiP or a nice Plant arrangement that way she can hold on to them for months and months that is if she doesn't kill them or if she has cats she has to put them somewhere they can't reach them.
In any cause a nice PLANT arrangement says "I want to be your friend or whatever for a long time." But you can also bring her pink roses.. not red because then she will think you want to jump her bones and you are really into her. You can also bring her yellow roses. Those are also nice. But do not take RED. TRUST me. Be subtle dont' give too much get to know her..That is if you are trying to get to know her. She's rebounding and you are too. So make it work. Its hard dating and finding people. Don't blow it.
Let her know you are interested in her and being a friend. Let her know she can call you and that she is IMPORTANT to you if that is what you want. Maybe go out another time and let the kids meet her... See if she wants to take it to next level. Do not rush the relationship...Let the GAME come to you Brothaman!!
Do your thing and just remember don't get nervous think of it as you are meeting up with an old friend. no pressure.. maybe you can go get a massage at a spa to relax you that day and drink some cucumber water and RELAX that always helps me calm down.. listen to some jazz or chew some gum but not too fast..make sure your breath smells good like DENTINE or BIG red. nothing worse than a man with funky azzzz breath. seriously.hopefully she will do the same.. bring some gum with you and if the breath is smelly offer her a stick....of gum that is.
good luck i hope it works out...please let us know..
you will do fine!!!!!!!
The PurpleScorpionGoddess
2006-08-18 17:40:33 · answer #3 · answered by The PurpleScorpionGoddess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you haven't seen her in 19 yrs, but ya'll have kept in touch all this time, my best advice to you is to be the person she has corresponded with for the past 19 yrs! If after not seeing her, but only corresponding with her all those years, she still wants to meet you, then half the battle is won! Don't blow it my trying to "over impress her"; just be the person who corresponded with her for 19 yrs; that's a winner every time!
2006-08-18 17:41:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself. Be genuine. If you could "catch" her by doing something special that's not "you," would you want to? Then she'd fall for that persona, not you--it's a prescription for disaster! But if you're genuine and she falls for you, well, you've got a real relationship. But if you're "you" and she doesn't like you, have you really lost anything? You can't maintain the fake "you" forever!
Besides being honest, be genuinely interested in her, her life, her kids. Talk about yourself some, too, but don't center the conversation on yourself. Take her a small gift to make her feel special--not real expensive or romantic; you don't want to scare her off!
2006-08-18 17:39:30 · answer #5 · answered by Maryfrances 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about impressing her. I think you need to reduce your expectations. You don't really know what to expect but you are building it up. Go easy with it. I suggest you pretend she an old friend (just a friend). This way you can set your expectations as you go and not seem too anxious. Remember, she coming out of a relationship and will need time. You will also need time to determine if she's for you.
2006-08-18 17:39:33 · answer #6 · answered by ManOfTheHour 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a bath. Press and starch your clothes. Trim your hair. Buy a rose from the grocery. Give her the rose, a handshake, and maybe a simple hug. Listen more. Talk less. Smile. Look in her eyes. Be yourself.
2006-08-18 18:11:27 · answer #7 · answered by NC_Pianist 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm...after all these time i presume u must know her pretty well. Treat her like the woman she is. U may wanna get her a small gift...just to show her how much u appreciate her. Remember its the thought that counts...has she told u like her favorite flowers or candy...or book? Be sensitive to her needs but do not overimpress. And remember nothing is more attractive than a confident man...who cares!
2006-08-18 17:40:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be the same person you are when you talk on the phone. If there is something there, it'll happen. Also, if she's ever told you about things she likes, like a certain flower....take one to give her when you meet. She'll be impressed that you remembered. lol
2006-08-18 17:43:43 · answer #9 · answered by Brown Eyes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from someone who wasn't high on the dating list thou ,i feel that if you just be yourself ,don't worry about if u r going mess up the reunion don't think about that just relax treat her like a lady yet dont be to overbearing or overwhelming ..talk to her really talk her ,treat her right like open the doors ,pull out the chair,ect..
2006-08-18 17:56:54 · answer #10 · answered by Jake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Act normal. if you were in touch and spoke a lot before you should know each other pretty well so just be who you were to her all along. i presonally prefer when guy are who they are intead of when they are trying to impress you and show off. be nice and kind and show her you are really a great person that she though you were and it should be perfectly fine.
2006-08-18 17:38:21 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋