when is a good time to look at a future relationship.? when waiting on divorce is it ok to start on the future? how do you tell your kids and introduce them to a new woman when that comes up?
2006-08-18 17:29:02 · 12 answers · asked by bob a 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Jumping into another relationship is the worst thing that you could do both for yourself and for your kids. You need to take some time and evaluate your previous marriage and look at the positives and the negatives. This will give you some insight of what you do that is right, as well as showing you the areas in your life that may require improvement. Starting a new relationship soon after ending another is a sign of insecurity, which is something you don't want to show your children. Take the time you have now to bond further with your kids and be strong for them. They are watching you right now. Show them that they are important to you! You will know when it is time to start over, but take it slowly, including introducing your new love to your kids.
2006-08-18 17:46:02 · answer #1 · answered by Dan 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the age of your kids. Kids come first when it comes to feelings etc.. If possible, if you must date and sleep and have sex , don't bring the date home where the kids will know about it. It will confuse them, relationship wise.
Everybody is different. But if you rush into a relationship, be prepared for people to judge you incorrectly.
Right now I tell myself that I would probably wait a long time but one doesn't know until they actually experience it. Good luck to you.
2006-08-19 00:45:32 · answer #2 · answered by fullofsunshine 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not a good time for new "relationships". And a new woman soon after divorce/separation is not a good idea for your kids.
2006-08-19 09:10:40 · answer #3 · answered by lostintheclover 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your just waiting on the "official" paperwork, but don't hold off on living. Be gentle with your kids. Save that "meeting of the children" until you have a strong relationship with the other individual. It will be a lot for them to process and accept and again, you don't want it to ruin your life. Good luck!
2006-08-19 00:38:27 · answer #4 · answered by viclyn 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell the kids as soon as you can about a divorce, they are part of it an need to know about it.
Wait at least 2 months after meeting someone new, to make sure she is "good enough" to introduce to your kids. An you need to make sure "she" is good enough for You too!
2006-08-19 01:12:20 · answer #5 · answered by Jim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respect your kids enough to wait until the divorce is final. You are their role model, its your responsibility to make things right in their world. Think about the message you are giving them and how little self respect you communicating to them.
2006-08-19 01:35:30 · answer #6 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you/re feeling that feeling about someone else, let the past go!!! You'll know when it's the right time to tell your family. Dont rush it, its a touchy thing, talk with both patires first and analyze every response. If you feel it go with it. lifes to short to not fully enjoy every minute. You can never bank on the rising sun in the am....
2006-08-19 00:36:35 · answer #7 · answered by chris13 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please don't let your kids watch women go in and out of your life..................until you know that the relationship is going to last a while........and even then, their loyalty will always be with their mother versus another woman. My best advice is the two parents should NEVER criticize one another as it totally causes your children's self esteem to go downhill. The parent who ever criticizes the other parent is ALWAYS the loser later on in life. Kids aren't stupid and are keenly aware of the tensions. I should know.....my kids father left when they were all under the age of 3.........he never paid child support and women always came first in his life. I NEVER said one thing about him and today the kids are in their mid 30's and quite educated and successful in their marriages, etc. They are simply cordial to their father but they love their 3rd stepmom who adores them.
2006-08-19 00:49:16 · answer #8 · answered by Cassie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You must "recover" from the divorce before you think about another relationship. Immediately - is- too- soon.
2006-08-19 00:37:52 · answer #9 · answered by me 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Take this time to find yourself. I would wait at least several years before making another commitment. It's a serious decision. But this is truly only something you can answer for your self.
2006-08-19 00:38:15 · answer #10 · answered by RAINBOW 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋