I have been in my current relationship for over 5 yrs now. My problem consists of that before I was involved with my current I was in another relationship with a guy I know without a doubt I am in love with? Me and my ex talk all the time but I don't want to hurt my current boyfriend's feelings by dumping him for no reason. What should i do? Is it possible to be in love with two people or am I just trying to protect my current boyfriend cause I really don't want to hurt him but I really do still have love for my ex.
2006-08-18 17:28:40 · 12 answers · asked by blessingfromheaven 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Go with your gut. It sounds like you want to be with your ex, just don't know how to break up with your current boyfriend. If you decide you'd rather be with your ex...let your boyfriend down easy. Remember that he has feelings too, and stringing him along when you love someone else just isn't right. Take some time to think about it (away from each of them) and then do what your gut tells you. Good luck with your situation!!!
2006-08-18 17:36:52 · answer #1 · answered by daughtry_fan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit back and figure out who really love. First make a list of what you want in a man you want to be with for the rest of your life and a list of what you do not want in a man and will not tolerate. Then the next step you will take your ex and write down all his good things in one line and all his bad in another. then with youpr current man take all his good traits in one list and all his bad in the other list.
now compare all the good traits to your master list and find out what man comes closest to what you want then compare bad traits to what you do not want in a man and see who has the most things you can not deal with. this may open your eyes as to who is more compatable for you
also think about what things on the good list you are willing to compramise and what on the bad list you can compramise. For a relationship is give and take.
Look at what you want for kids and how to bring them up and see who works with you on that better. who compliments you more and who do you compliment more. do not worry about hurt feelings now. worry bout how this will effect everyones future
2006-08-18 17:43:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have strong feelings for both of them, but you aren't giving 100% of yourself to either of them either. That isn't fair to either of them. You need to decide whom you want to be with and gently tell the other you need to make a commitment and give all of yourself to this relationship to be fair. Don't string both along. It's just so unfair to them and also, you may just get left in the dust by both of them if they find out you are being fickle and seeing two people at the same time.
2006-08-18 17:41:49 · answer #3 · answered by viclyn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The longer you drag this out the more it is going to hurt someone, so if you really don't want to hurt anyone, you need to choose, NOW. Seriously within the next five minutes and let them both know. Which one can you live you life with out. Thats the one that needs to go.
2006-08-18 17:38:35 · answer #4 · answered by I love sushi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is possible to love 2 ppl at the same time but what isnt right is to be with them both at the same time, its not fair to any of u, so cut one loose .. i cant n wont help u choose bc i cant i dont know the whole story ..so do what is right, for all 3 of u, in love someone always gets hurt but it is best to end it then for them to find out in a mannar that isnt becoming of a lady, so dont let me down, take one for the real women .. n cut one loose the right way. then move on with the otha one..good luck
2006-08-18 17:34:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've totally been there. and i know this sounds stupid but dont hang out with or talk to either of them for a couple days and see wich one u miss more.
2006-08-18 17:34:51 · answer #6 · answered by lil shorty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is a reason that you're breaking up with him your in love with another guy. and that would hurt him weather you like it or not. and pleaz don't cheat
2006-08-18 17:51:48 · answer #7 · answered by kuki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
But there's a reason he's your ex, right?
2006-08-18 17:32:41 · answer #8 · answered by Pask 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your a two timing beatch
2006-08-18 17:32:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please make yourself clear for who the most you love now..
do not make anyone hurts for your action...
2006-08-18 17:33:20 · answer #10 · answered by jessy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋