my family complains to me all the time, cause I let my hubby go to strip clubs with his friends, they say that it's wrong and he shouldnt want to go! He works very hard and deserves time with his buddies! after all he lets me shop with my friends! They say it's ok for me to shop but he is to be home with me when he's off...He and his buddies go on the boat too! they even complain about that too! Is it wrong that I let him go out? I am so angry my family always trying to control my life, they need to stay the hell out!
2006-08-18 17:04:23 · 5 answers · asked by boobear 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Is what bad, your husband going to the strip club? Or, the family gettin all up in your crack over it?
My wife doesnt care if I go, she occasionally goes with me. Her family can be fairly obtrusive in our marriage, so every once in a while you have to have "the big one" just to clear the air and set things as they need to be. Dont have the fight when you are mad, wait until you are in control, so you dont completely alienate them. Just get them to mind their own marriages and leave yours alone.
Btw, you sound like a good wife, keep up the good work.
2006-08-18 17:14:54 · answer #1 · answered by n2bateyou2000 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your family are not trying to control your life...they're just advising you because from my point of view...i think that you're wrong too. they're right when they say that your husband shouldn't be in a strip club...that's right actually, and you shouldn't encourage him at all to go to places like that. there are alot of places to enjoy with friends and buddies but strip clubs are definitely out of the option.
strip clubs give your hubby a chance to lust on other women and to commit adultery to you. in the Bible it says that "when you look at another woman with lust in your eyes, you're already committing adultery with your wife in your heart".....and adultery is a serious one. if you allow him to sin against you, then no doubt your relationship is heading for the worst in the years to come. im sure of this. going to strip clubs can pollute the mind and evoke lust, whether you deny this or not.
dont you find it offensive being a wife that your hubby is spending money and time looking at other women half naked when he could just look at you? going to strip clubs only means that he's not contented with you.
i think you just dont get the deeper meaning of what he's doing. he's gradually ruining himself and your relationship and you're not even aware of it. watch out.
2006-08-19 00:15:32 · answer #2 · answered by Jacqueline 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with your family. Your husband shouldn't want to go to strip clubs. He should want to be with you. WE ALL WORK HARD. WE ALL DESERVE WHATEVER WE WANT. That doesn't mean we get a lap dance from a naked chick. I want a ********, but that doesn't mean I should be able to go get a hooker after being married for 14 years does it?
2006-08-19 00:12:56 · answer #3 · answered by Michael D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Simply stop telling them what he does......what they don't know won't hurt them. If it doesn't bother you, that is all that matters! They really sound like they need to tend to their own business.
2006-08-19 00:10:30 · answer #4 · answered by Geez Louise 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Who's telling them your business?
2006-08-19 00:13:27 · answer #5 · answered by whataboutme 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋