is 16 too young for marriage?

Question

I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years...he is 20. do u think we're crazy for being engaged?

is it really illegal be-cuz of the age difference? thats gay, we're in love

we work together (we're in a band...check us out in warper next year!) so we tour...so we have kinda lived together

Answer 1

At 16, I wanted to be a doctor, marry my true love Erica, and be a world-ranked fisherman.
Ten years later, I'd never want to be a doctor, I have no idea what I saw in Erica (no offense, Erica), and I don't have the urge to ever fish again. Today I want to be a teacher, marry Megan, and be a great guitarist.
Things change. You'll change. You are not now who you ultimately will be. A lifelong commitment today would be a huge regret later, I promise you.

Answer 2

I can tell you from experience i was married at 15 years old and had my first child at 15 years old,i turned 16 when he turned 1 month old.You are way to young to even consider it,you will be robbing yourself from your teen years and trust me you do regret some things that was taken from you due to your choices we make.I thought i was totally in love myself,i took a beating everyday like taking a one a day vitamin,no joke,he changed and became obsessive.We were to young to take on this big world,the bills the baby and all his needs,having to move back and forth,cause we couldn't afford the rent,lacked everything girl!It's not what others think it is cracked up to be.I am now in my 40's and i only stayed with him for about 11/2 years,but it took me 3 years to divorce him,he kept contesting it,that was the controlling part in him.I guess his true colors came out after he knew i was his legally.I don't mean to scare you and you might have a wonderful guy,but don't rob yourself of being just you and maybe furthering your education.The whole world is there for your choosing and the opportunities that's there for you.I would wait,this sounds like he is the first love that's been in your life and you should never limit yourself,or jump at the first guy no matter what.However,if you still feel this way about him when you reach being of age and graduated and done all the things you have always dreamed of doing,then make a decision.I know the final answer is between you,your parents and your guy,but i hope you just give some thought,however i wish you the best in all you do and in all your choices,Good Luck!

Answer 3

Honey, you obviously don't know what you want in life at this point. You say how much you are in love with this man; yet your blast on your yahoo 360 page is "Life is like a vacuum; it sucks!" If you are so happily in love then how can life suck? 16 is definitely too young to be married. I was engaged at 16 and I am so happy that being engaged is as far as it went. I'm not even with that man anymore. I was 16 and the man I was engaged to was 21. You are too young to know exactly how you feel. I know you are going to hate to hear this, but you are still a kid. At 16 I felt like I knew everything and everything my dad tried to tell me was wrong; I look back now and see that he was totally right and I was very blinded by me just wanting to get out and be an adult. Listen, enjoy being young. I'm only 20 now but wish more than anything I was 16 again. You may wish your life away now but you'll regret it later! I am engaged again now, but marriage is no where close. There are pastors available everyday to marry people; don't rush into it!

Answer 4

make it a Long engagement mature together and you will know
life's easy as kids being in love it gets harder when your with each other twenty for seven . If I were your parent Id say that you you were so young and that other guys will come and that you might not find your guy that attractive after a while but that can happen in marriage as well so I think if you are sure really sure that you can make a life with this guy then stay engaged for a couple of years and then marry its less expensive and easier to move on from than a n early marriage I know its not what you want to here but there it is as i see it

Answer 5

actually, i think it's too young for BOTH OF YOU to get married. at that age, you are still physically, emotionally and psychologically immature to handle such a complicated situation as marriage. you are still very young, you two dont have to be in a hurry to get married. if you think your relationship is really heading that way, then why not wait until you two are more mature and especially financially stable to be married and have a family. you should exhaust your being a single first--and i dont mean going with all the guys you meet. what i mean is you have to enjoy being a single lady first because there's lot of things you can do as a single person that you cannot do anymore when you're married. because marriage is not a simple thing...it involves a lot of work to it. you just have to learn to be responsible for yourself first, pamper your own and love yourself first before you will be able to learn to do that on other people--such as a husband. try not to be in a hurry. anyway, you'll come to that point in your life, im sure. remember, its not how long you have been together that counts. more power to your relationship!

Answer 6

It is illegal to get married, however you can if you get your legal guardian's concent (if your parents say it's ok and sign some form) you can get married.

However, you are 16 years old. You are not the person you are going to become. You are still changing and so is he. I would seriously reconsider. Wait until after you graduate high school, and if you choose, college. You have your whole life ahead of you, and I honestly think that marriage can wait.

Live a little. :)
Good Luck, but until your 18, everything you do is up to your parents.

Answer 7

Yes ! Your just a baby ! You have so much to experience yet. If your boyfriend loves you that much he will wait. Finish school go to college, Then think about it. There so much in life that I know that you would not be able to handle at this age. Think about it. If you decide that , that's what you want well be it. But there would be a tough road against you. Times have change . You need education to get through life. I would sure hate to know that you are suffering in life. I am not trying to be mean or anything but search your heart and it will tell you what to do. Good-Luck to both of you.

Answer 8

Yes at age 16 is way way to young!, Wait until your mid 20's have a stable full time job and save money up to buy a nice car or house. Also live with him for a while !!

Answer 9

its ok to be ingaged, but dont get married till you are 18, if he loves you as much as he says he does then he will still be there. at your age you want to not be tied down or years later you will regret not bein with people your own age and doing all that kid stuff that you guys do. you will miss those things. you know how teens get pregnant and they say how they had to grow up fast and leave everything behind that they ever wanted to do at that age, well you will have to do the same thing. this is something to take seriously, realy think about it, i mean if he has been with you this long then he should not hesitate to want to wait for you for two more years. it is illegal to get married yes, unless you have your parents permission.

Answer 10

Think about this question for a second. Why would you ask this. You must be doubting yourself. Personally I think it is. But I was sixteen once and at that time I wasn't to young for anything. But now that I have lived some I know 40 is to young to get married.