If I make up fiticious stories to upset and anger myself should others suffer because of it ?

Question

I periodically crave discord and kaos in my life and my relationship, so I make up terrible stories and accusations about my husband and convinvce myself they are true. I have done this many times in the 6+ years we've been together. None of the stories or accusations have ever turned out to be true,but in my memory I see them as real. He has never done anything that gives me a reason not to trust him, yet I am once again making accusations that I will convince myself are true. I infere or accuse him and when he denies it I insist his denial is concrete proof of guilt when he is hurt or angered I tell him it is because he feels guilty. Should I continue to put him through this if only a couple times a year

Answer 1

No why would you do that. this is time that you could be loving him and showing how much you care for him.But instead your to busy being a drama queen.What if two weeks from now he past away and was gone forever.Don't wast time with petty things love the people in your life like every day is the last. Because life is really to short.There r women out here that would give anything just to have a day to spend with there husbands that have past away. And god has blessed you with yours and you are wasting time.There are woman that can't trust there husbands to go to the dame store with out Begin with another woman. And here you r with a trust worthy man and still your not happy.Women like you should have my baby's daddy then you could appreciate a good man.But like i said just stop all that petty shi t and start loving your husband before you lose him

Answer 2

Holy drama queen. No, it's not okay to do this to this poor man. You should be lucky he stays with you. Honey, I understand the concept of things getting routine, boring and uneventful, but to do something so destructive is beyond my comprehension. Why not try something more positive? Mix it up in bed, get a hobby, take a class or start answering questions on here to see what this kind of drama can do to a relationship. If that fails, call your doctor and get some prozac for these times of the year. Our bodies sometimes develop chemical changes that alter our pattern of thinking. It usually happens in the dead of winter and as fall begins. Some people can work through it, but those with a really bad chemical imbalance need medication....you might be one of them. The only reason I mention this, is because you said it only happens a couple of times a year. This leads me to believe the rest of the year is just fine. It doesn't hurt to check it out. It might even make things better for you and your husband.

Answer 3

It's a good thing that you recognize that you are one of those people who do indeed need constant drama in their life. Some people take it to even higher levels such as "everyone's out to sabotage me at work" or "I have the worst luck in the world." I always kind of feel like it's those people, and yours, need for attention, whether good or bad. You've admitted you create the drama. Drama queen is a name for this. Let me tell you the other side. For the person, in this case your husband, it's miserable indeed. The normal times you mention are just enough to sucker him into thinking you've changed, then when he gets comfortable, wham, you're back! Also, the ones you share your suspicions with get tired of hearing it. My suggestion to you is to get hold of yourself before you drive everyone away from you! Good luck, and take courage in the fact that you do know you are one of THOSE people!

Answer 4

Is this another of your stories?

Answer 5

you need to see a doctor, i think it is a mental problem that can be cured.

Answer 6

go and get proffesional help