How do you live with someone who is angry all the time, but won't get counseling or any christian guidance?

Question

who do you deal with an angry person who suffers from depression?

Answer 1

Well for one thing you cannot change another human being UNTIL THEY WAY TO CHANGE!!!

GO to counseling WITHOUT that person. LEARN all YOU can about what is bothering YOU!

Depression can be survived with Therapy & Medications! TRY talking to your loved one IMMEDIATELY!!!

Make an appointment with that persons doctor for a complete health exam/physical! Then make an appointment at your Local Mental Health Clinic! They will do an evaluation on the depression!

Answer 2

That's a very difficult situation. You don't want to give up on someone you love, who is living in turmoil, but at the same time, you are being pulled into this person's dark space. Depression hurts everyone involved. It takes a foolish person to judge you negatively and make insulting and condescending statements.

The thing about a person who has mental anguish and possible mental illness is, he/she cannot begin to accept the need for any guidance or counseling. When they are too far gone, it's hard to get them back to where we feel they will be better.

Instead of discussing going for couseling, maybe you should have this person go for a regular check up, discuss with the doctor the physical symptoms that have developed from this state of depression, and perhaps this will help open the door to better guidance.

I have been where you are, I gave up. I left. That doesn't mean I was right or wrong to do so. I just know I don't have the patience anymore, nor the strength to take on such a painful situation.

Answer 3

Counselling will only work if the person is willing.

This angry behaviour has a very negative effect on the people this person is in contact with. If he/she is at least willing to talk about it, then explain how it effects you; how it hurts you. Try to find out why they are angry, so that you can understand where this is coming from.

Does he/she even admit that they are angry? If not, you have a real problem. Try having someone else that is close to him/her approach the subject and explain it's effect on you. Maybe they can encourage him/her to get counselling.

Lastly, try being angry back and leave if you have to. Sometimes this is the only thing they understand. Leaving is not forever; people do get back together, but this bold move sometimes has a strong impact and works as a shock; maybe they'll wake up and smell the roses. I did.

Answer 4

This is a VERY stressful situation. I had a depressed sister stay with me for a while .She was angry too...only silently.She refused to admit that something was wrong with her even though she would just lay on the couch or floor day in and day out. I had to be firm with her...yet loving.She was shown places where she could get counseling.She had many appointments set up at different places but she would fake like she was ok and then never go again.
I was worn out but I had to keep trying. I kept telling her that she needed to talk to someone and that I was there to listen and help if she wanted me to. But she didn't want to talk to me so I encouraged her to talk to someone else that she trusted if she didn't want the counseling or christian guidance.
I finally had to give her an ultimatum.I told her that anyone that stayed with me had to help themselves to the best of their ability and also contribute to the house.I told her that as much as I loved her ,If she did not just TRY to pick herself up then she would have to go. But if I saw her trying -- I would take up the slack. I got a response from her then. She's doing a lot better-- still depressed but holding down a job and caring for herself a little better now.

Maybe an ultimatum is what is needed in your case. Something has to reach the depressed one's heart in order for them to put forth an effort to help themselves.
Let him/her know that you love him/her....but something must be done.And mean what you say no matter how hard it is.

Answer 5

it truly is gloomy even as such issues as that take position in what's assume to be a time for excitement. i'm sorry, you've been very good to wish about it. i imagine your prayer became responded for the staggering. proceed to develop into in the route of God, oftentimes you received't recognize if you're being heard, yet you're. stay your existence, sometime probable you'll meet someone who has similar values and makes you chortle!

Answer 6

You didn't give any details such as what is your relationship to angry person. You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make him drink it. No one I know would want to live with someone who is angry all the time. If this person isn't willing to get help and you've talked to him/her about this to no avail, your either going to have to tolerate it-------or move out/on. Its going to take its toll on you tho, if you stay. Good luck.

Answer 7

Have you tried to ask him what is wrong?? may be there is something you can do to help him. Sometimes if you are understanding and just listen to what he has to say is just what it takes to get someone out of depression. Be supportive and understanding, if you keep on complaining about his behavior and pushing him into seeking some kind of help he will not be able to get out of that state of mind. He needs to know that whatever the problem is ...you are right there behind him.

Answer 8

Listen to them, be compassionate about what they are depressed about, help them change it if possible. Ie: If they are depressed bc they have no job, help push towards getting a job without being angry yourself at them. They need to talk as much as possible about what is bothering them and they need help resolving those issues. If not, set a Dr.'s app. & go with them for the depression.

Answer 9

If you are the wife, get "The Power Of The Praying Wife"

If the husband, get "The Power Of The Praying Husband"

Both are by Stormie O'Martian

Covering your spouse in specific prayer is something you can do anytime, anywhere without "confronting" or being "pushy" as so many others have intimated...

It is POWERFUL

Answer 10

Anger is a secondary emotion. What's beneath it is fear and/or pain, but most people (especially men) are brought up to believe that showing fear or pain is showing weakness. In our society, anger is looked at as an acceptable if not admirable trait (the tough guy syndrome). He probably feels that agreeing to go to counciling would be an admition of weakness...that he can't handle things on his own.