2006-08-18 16:42:16 · 9 answers · asked by lester p 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it is seems you are having an arrange marriage, i tried to love someone who i had to marry, and it did not work for me, listen to your heart what you feel for this person, if you think you can respect her but loving her is not the same. good luck
2006-08-19 06:18:40 · answer #1 · answered by Ruksana P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is your custom. Is this a pre-arranged marriage? If not why are you even considering it.
Marriage is hard enough when you truly love someone but to go in uncertain of how you feel takes a special person to make it succeed.
In the U.S. there used to be pre-arranged marriage. Mostly a financial thing. And, at that time, the divorce rate was low.
It is possible to learn to love someone, but you have to at the very least like them when you marry. And both of you must make a commitment that you will work together to make it work.
Yes you can learn to love but if you already are thinking about what your chances for success are......well you are not getting started right.
2006-08-18 17:04:40 · answer #2 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People say they 'find' love, as if it were an object hidden by a rock. But love takes many forms, and it is never the same for any man and woman. What people find then is a certain love.
Love, like rain, can nourish from above, drenching couples with a soaking joy. But sometimes, under the angry heat of life, love dries on the surface and must nourish from below, tending to its roots, keeping itself alive.
Lost love is still love. It takes a different form, that's all. You can't see their smile or bring them food or tousle their hair or move them around a dance floor. But when those senses weaken, another heightens. Memory. Memory becomes your partner. You nurture it. You hold it. You dance with it.
2006-08-18 16:57:26 · answer #3 · answered by Princess illusion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, the 50% failure rate is misleading. It is true that 50% of all marriages end in divorce, however, that statistic takes into account people like Liz Taylor who get married a million times. So while it is true that half of marriages end in divorce, it is NOT true that half of people who get married later get divorced.
2006-08-18 16:49:24 · answer #4 · answered by Rosasharn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I assume your in america so im also assuming that you would love someone Before the idea of marriage arose.
If its a pre-arranged marriage then all i can say is to respect her and treat her like you would want to be treated and she will do the same and im sure you will fall in love together!
2006-08-18 16:48:18 · answer #5 · answered by ziggunerin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u can learn to love someone...but in marrying someone, u have to love her/him..it should be love and marriage, not the other way around
2006-08-18 17:02:03 · answer #6 · answered by just me:) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would oyu wan tto marry someone you didn't completely love?? its not fair on her adn even more unfair on you. marriage is a big commitment you should love the person completely before jumping into anything.
2006-08-18 21:09:13 · answer #7 · answered by ladeee lindel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In time you will love her for her good points and be vexed at her failings. It will work if you both are committed and willing to make sacrifices for each other.
2006-08-19 02:37:42 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don,t love someone then don,t marry them, bleedin obvious i would have thought.
2006-08-19 23:36:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋