he is really sweet to me and makes it hard to tell him not to be calling to much!!!or why are you saing where going out while where NOT!!!!!what should i do!!!!!!!!!!
2006-08-18 16:38:48 · 28 answers · asked by sweety 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
what makes it so hard to tell him is that hes been really hurt this year couse he lost 3 of his friends(they past out)what should i do so he doesnt think hes lossing me!!!!!
2006-08-18 16:53:24 · update #1
If you're really sure you're not into him, and don't want to give him a chance like "lisa" said, or tell him what "davbig" said (lol), just simply tell him you need to talk to him, meet him, and first tell him you mean no harm but don't want to lie or hurt him but you can't do a relationship because of personal reasons that have nothing to do with him, or any other guy, but you did always like him as a friend and you like how he is. And you think he's a guy too nice to lie to. This way, you don't hurt him, you actually compliment him, he doesn't feel shot down, and his confidence isn't challenged (it's a guy thing sometimes...lol). The rest of it will fix itself!
2006-08-18 17:02:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hard as it seems you must make him less assuming.
As long as he thinks he has a chance with you he will not quit.
Just tell him that you would like to be friends but he has to stop calling so often. And there is no way to keep from hurting his feelings. But the sooner the better for both of you.
2006-08-18 16:47:53 · answer #2 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what candy? I'm in a similar situation. Except, I'm in your friends shoes. The best thing you can do is tell him the truth. Because if he thinks something is there, and there isn't, he's gonna be even more hurt. He will appreciate you more if you're just honest w/him. Everything you're telling us you should tell him. Tell him you don't wanna lose his friendship. But if he thinks you're leaving him like his other friends did, question that. What did he do to make them not wanna be his friend. Or am I reading it wrong. Did they pass away? If so, sorry.
2006-08-26 12:13:09 · answer #3 · answered by TRULEY MADLY DEEPLEY 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If his friends passed (not past) out, they will probably wake up before long!
Don't try to make him think he's NOT losing you! Make it clear that he never HAD you!
It is much more cruel to be wishy-washy and string him along than to straight out tell him that you are not his girlfriend, that you don't want to be, and that you don't like him "that way."
If you are ever worried about someone's feelings, remember that not being honest is the worst thing you can do to someone who cares for you. They always find out the truth, and then they are not only sad, but they feel like an idiot for not figuring out what you were hinting at. So stop hinting, and TELL him.
2006-08-19 05:54:48 · answer #4 · answered by LazlaHollyfeld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you are not his girlfriend. You really enjoy being his friend, but he can't keep on calling you all the time. You also have other things to do and other friends that you would like to see sometime. If you all continue to see and talk to each other everyday all the time you will get bored very quickly and there will be no possibility for any thing.
2006-08-26 06:55:01 · answer #5 · answered by strawberries_r_cream 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with him and tell him how you feel. If you just want to be friends then tell him that, don't let him assume anything. It's better to be honest then let him think that you feel the same way. It might hurt him a little bit to hear that but it's better for the long run.
2006-08-18 16:47:50 · answer #6 · answered by Medina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off: SPELL CHECK: it's we're (we are) not where (as in place) and too (as in also) not to (as in direction)
Talk to the guy and tell him that you like him as a friend but that you do not like him. Be kind when you talk to him and do not use bad language. Just explain that you don't want to give him the wrong impression but that you don't have those feelings for him. Then don't spend so much time with him. Otherwise you'll be sending him a mixed message.
2006-08-26 12:42:31 · answer #7 · answered by a1nos 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Assure him that you will always be his friend, but then only go out in a group setting, so he knows that you are just friends. If he can't hold your hand or kiss you around the friends, he might just figure it out.
2006-08-24 13:52:21 · answer #8 · answered by nkg0515 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know a goodlooking dude who actually does this...to every girl he meets...it is his line and he usually succeeds. You are just a neophyte and he knows it. It is a game for him. Poilitely but FIRMLY tell him you don't want him calling and you sense he is manipulating you. See how many denials and excuses he gives you. Tell him your father is furios with all his unwanted and unsolicted calls.
2006-08-24 17:44:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a guy call me too much tell him that he's a great guy but you're just not into him that way
2006-08-25 11:34:10 · answer #10 · answered by seetherchik 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋