wife has been working getting her own live the last 14 mnths. Don't want to do anything as family. She has made a girlfriend that is almost 10 yr her jr. She is 33 stay out at clubs with girl friend till 3am. Went on vacation with girlfriend to Califn. for 5 days only give me 1 day notice. She is spending as little time as possible @ home. Kidz: 4S, 6D. She has made it clear that as soon as she gets a fulltime job, she is moving out.
She said I did not tell/show her I loved her. I only wanted to have sex. She suffers from bi-polar. I did not support her in this.
2006-08-18 16:32:45 · 16 answers · asked by tonylz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
S4 & D6. I did not understand when she complained about her depression & bi-polar. I downplayed her diagnoses. She feels I was not interested (did not love her). I concetrated on getting family settled (relocated from another contitnent) and felt I alone was responsible for everything.
2006-08-18 16:55:40 · update #1
We have been married 11yr+
2006-08-18 16:56:46 · update #2
When the other person in the relatinship is not giving you the love you deserve, there is , sadly, nothing you can do about it. You can not force someone to love you. Everyone has free-will. The bi-polar is obviously affecting her behavior, but until SHE chooses to see a doctor and stay on meds, she will not change, she will in fact , get increasingly worse.
You must let her go, and try to begin anew without her. Life is filled with sadness, this is an example. There is nothing you can do, but accept it , and go on.
2006-08-18 16:39:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did u n ur wife have a heart-to-heart talk? What is the problem in ur marriage? Is best to salvage your marriage as your 2 kids are innocent is this whole thing. Dun give up till the very last min.
She is quite pretty close to her this gf, Sorry 2 ask but is she getting into relationship with her?
Maybe somehow her new friendship with someone younger lets her explore into new life of nightlife and other activities in which what youngsters do these days. So called a new lease of lifestyle for her actually.
Bi-polar? Unlove from you? If this is true, perhaps you want to change your "attitude" to her like bring her out, showing concerns/luv etc to her.
2006-08-18 16:50:51 · answer #2 · answered by HazAver 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds sad. I'm sorry for you. Bi-polar is a bit of a nightmare. Perhaps you should just focus on the kids. You are not responsible for your wife's actions when all is said and done. Do you want to stay with her or not? If you both want to stay together then make a commitment; if not, then try to make sure she stays in touch with her kids if that is in their best interests and it probably is.
2006-08-18 19:24:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound as if you have to give up...she is making her own decisions. Instead of worrying about her next move...get prepared to be able to take on full time responsiblity for your children, because apparently she's not stable enough to raise them. I wish you all the best in the future...hopefully you will be able to move on and find a better life with someone else. But keep in mind to be supportive and loving (it's not all about sex) or you will go thru this again
2006-08-18 16:42:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off, if you suffer from bi-polar, it is not your fault and you cant control it, i mean getting upset because your wife goes out all the time, gives 1 day notice to going somewhere, and leaving the kids with you while she goes and has fun, if getting upset about that is bi-polar, then i guess all of us sensible people are suffering from it too. my point is that she is the one doing wrong, not you. just keep being yourself and try to find someone worth your time, and who will appreciate your love.
2006-08-18 16:45:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow ten children that is a blessing. Take it from a womans point of view when a woman is fed up and ready to leave there is nothing you can do about it. Maybe she never got out much and now that she has met a younger girlfriend she is trying to keep up. Did you treat her right?
2006-08-18 16:44:17 · answer #6 · answered by Unknown_1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Considering the fact she has already made it clear she's moving out when she works full time. It's already time to just give it up. If she has no interest in the family or you, there's your hint that it's the time.
2006-08-18 16:38:11 · answer #7 · answered by James B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see how you're not emotionally drained from this already....but you should kick her out before she has a chance to leave you. It will make you feel better in the long run. Good luck! She's probably cheating on you!
2006-08-18 16:38:48 · answer #8 · answered by Jen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the "two Way Street" doesn't exist here--time to hit the highway!
2006-08-18 16:45:10 · answer #9 · answered by phyllis_neel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL I WILL JUST LIKE TO SAY I AM SORRY THAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH THIS. BUT YOU GOT TO PICK YOURSELF UP, AND STAY STRONG FOR YOUR CHILDREN.NOW YOUR WIFE NEEDS HELP BUT CAN'T NO ONE HELP HER BUT HER. AND THAT WILL TAKE TIME,BUT EVEN IF YOU AND HER WILL NO LONGER BE TOGETHER DON'T BE ANGERY AT HER.CAUSE YOU SOUND LIKE A PERSON WHO HAS A CONSCIOUS. BUT YOU GOT TO UNDERSTAND WHERE SHE IS COMING FROM SHES SICK AND SHE IS SO DEPRESS WITH HOW SHE FEELS THAT SHE IS NOT THINKING. SO PLEASE SUPPORT HER NO MATTER WHAT DECISION SHE MAKES.TAKE CARE AND GOD BLESS.
2006-08-18 17:15:40 · answer #10 · answered by mahogany d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋