if a woman who knows your married comes on to BIG TIME!! you should you tell your wife???????????????????????

Question

my wife is out of town and this gal pours it on strong and I refuse. Should I mention this situation to my wife? I did nothing wrong and conducted myself in a responsible mannor. We have been married over 10 years now and she is truly my best friend. I do not want her stressed out when she leaves town for work but at the same time I want to tell her the truth. The thing is I am positive she gets hit on and does not mention it. Should it just be kept quiet?

Answer 1

Gwad D^%$# Dude! What kind of Nutless Pooosey R U!? Put that other chick in her place and keep your mouth shut about telling your wife unless you secretly have feelings for this other chick and are not being honest. Why do you have to freak your wife out? If you knew of every guy that hit on your wife, you'd freak out too. What's the point? The only struggle you are having is whether you want to do her or not......It's very simple. If you don't want the attention, tell the other woman she has to quit/go. You simply are not giving the right signals, so say what you have to say to the other woman and say it fast!

Answer 2

That is a tough one. I guess there are a lot of things to consider. First of all, if she is your best friend then you are going to want to tell her. But I understand your not wanting her to worry too.

The problem, I guess, is that you are unable to make this other gal understand, once and for all, that you are simply not interested. If you really wanted to, I am sure you could. But I don't know the particulars about the "gal".

That is where the difference between this gal hitting on you, and the guys who may hit on your wife. She makes sure they know there is not a snowballs chance in hell, then blows it off. She literally does not think about it again because there was not even the smallest possibility of anything happening.

The fact that you feel you need to tell your wife, indicates that you do not feel that you are able to get through to this person.

If you don't tell her, and it comes to her ears another way, then you are building mistrust between the two of you.

I think that if you do mention it to your wife, you should be politically correct about it. Just tell her that you could be wrong, but you get the feeling that "so-and-so" has been hitting on you. Ask your wife if it is okay with her that if it happens again, if she would be unhappy if you were perhaps a bit rude to this person to get the point across, since she is obviously not good at taking hints. Done this way, perhaps your wife may even have a few suggestions as to how to handle the situation.

Personally, I say, if she is hitting on you then she does not respect your wife or your marriage. She should not even be welcome to your home, and you should be somewhat less than friendly when you meet out somewhere.

Answer 3

If it's a one time thing and you'll never see this person again, there's no need to upset your wife over something that happened once. On the other hand if this gal is persistent and keeps coming on to you, you need to do two things. Let your wife know and tell the "other" woman to back off.

Answer 4

if you dont tell her and she finds out, she may think you were trying to hide something. since you did nothing wrong you should tell her so she wont find out some other way, even if she is not completely truthful to you.


ps. congrats for being the only man alive (besides my husband) that turned a gal down while your wife is outta town. lol.

Answer 5

I wouldn't because she would worry a lot not because she didn't trust you,but just the general anxiety of what "could" happen when she's not there. Now, if this is an on going thing with the woman who insists on trying to "get" with you, then I would go to her. And tell her "I need help there's a woman who keeps hitting on me and knows we are married. As your husband I have tried everything I can to get her to leave me alone and I need your support and help to get this woman to back off because I mean to keep my marriage vows to you.

Answer 6

Yes, you have to to tell her because if she finds out in some other way, and she probably will, she will be suspicious of your for not telling her yourself and she'll think there's a lot more to the story. Anyway, not telling her is lying by omission. She has a right to know about this sort of thing. Would you want your wife to tell you if it happened to her? Ask her about it.

Answer 7

It depends. Telling her might look like you're feeling guilty. I personally would just keep quiet. But my husband and I tend to be very jealous creatures. I don't mind if he flirts, frankly, I'm sure he gets hit on occassion, but I don't want to know about it. lol But if you really think she'll be okay with it, sure, tell her. But I might tell her in a joking sort of way. "You wouldn't believe what happened today" sort of way." so it doesn't come across as you feeling guilty, you know?

Answer 8

You should tell that hoe to stay away from you and run the other way if you ever see her again. Yes tell your wife who knows what that freak may try to do or say to get you. Tell your wife be open and honest you didn't do anything wrong.

Answer 9

Nope, tell her. If you have nothing to hide, then hide nothing. She'd be hurt if she learned about it later or heard it second hand, and may even think you're guilty of something even if you're not. As for the girl who was seriously hitting on you, she needs to learn the concept of respect. I'm sure your wife may have some choice words for her as well.

Answer 10

Since she is your best friend then as her best friend tell her. She deserves to know the truth about her "friend". My husband tells me when some freak at work hits on him. He response is "if you cant beat the house go home" . He has it very good at home. Be honest with her. She will appreciate it.