Why would a wife try to turn the kids against their Dad?

Question

There is no mental or physical abuse, the wife just wants the kids to like her more then their Dad. This is very odd to me since my Mom or Dad never played a game like that with their kids emotions.
Her parents are divorced and her Mother did that to her. Her Dad was a drunk and woman chaser so maybe he deserved it.

We have 4 kids girl 18, boy 16, boy 13, girl 11. She has turned the girls against me and I have little interaction with them ( it's sad). The boys didn't take the bait and I have a good relationship with them.

So why would a woman do this,,,,,,,, she is really damaging the girls with her self-centered behavior.

Answer 1

Poor role models (her parents). She thinks this is somehow the right thing to do by being vindictive. It is very sad and she is doing a disservice to your girls that will damage their perception of men in general. I don't know what else you can do other than to SHOW your children that you're a good father to them, nothing at all like their mom is saying about you and hope that your daughters will come around to realize this and see for themselves.

Answer 2

Your answer is in the background you gave. When people have children they either raise their chidren how they were raised regardless of situation or they realize the bad things their parents did to them and avoid making the same mistakes. Just sit down have have a serious talk with your wife that you are their father and you may not be there for them the way she thinks you should , but you should not be made "a bad guy" because she craves the adoration of her children.

Answer 3

It sounds like she is vindictive and has control issues. No one wins at divorce but it sounds like my ex trying to win at any cost. I feel for you! I have one child and I have a pretty good relationship with her but her mother would dump her off with anyone but me just to punish me. The sad state of affairs is the court and lawyers don't care. I have a great GAL Report stating that I should have more time with my kid but the judge won't read the report until trial which is schedule for the end of the year but its been now going on three years on temp orders that give me limited time.

Answer 4

Because she seen it when she grew up and did not break the chain. She is acting like her Mom did to her. She needs help it hurt her when she was growing up. You would think she would of stopped it but she didn't. She needs to learn how to break the chain so your kids will not do the same to their kids. She should go see a councilor. She is only hurting her kids by doing those things.

Answer 5

She has her own sad need to fill- feels alone and imperfect so she keeps her children strapped to her side for security.

Some people never get over that feeling, so they control the ones they "love" to help make themselves feel better. Good luck to you and the potential son-in-laws, you have some trouble there.

Answer 6

I would say she is a very insecure woman. A friend's ex-wife did the same thing. It was a control issue with her. Just continue to do the best you can with your children.

Answer 7

Why is she so angry at you that she would project that onto your children? girls are more susceptible to this mental manipulation than boys are, it is unfair of her to d do this and you should seek family counseling before your daughters are permanently damaged by this behavior. I wish you well.

Answer 8

Maybe shes jealous because you moved on without her it will come back to haunt her in the future because the kids will eventually find out the truth.

Answer 9

The ***** is crazy. Go to counseling. What she is doing is emotional and mental abuse. You have to get to the bottom of it before the 18yo leaves the nest.

Answer 10

It sounds like she may be lacking confidence in herself. Help her to look good in the eyes of the kids. By uplifting her and her spirits, your kids will see you in a higher light as well. Good luck!!!