I'm moving in with my boyfriend, hes all for it, but parents don't think its right. I'm in college and my parents want me to go back to SIUC but I have already enrolled at Indiana University by his house. So I'm still in school no matter what, but still my parents can't accept me wanting to move in with him. I'm 21, I feel I should have my say in what I want. My boyfriend is a great guy, went to purdue, hes a detective, he has it all. I feel I'm doing the right thing, we love each other and we want to be together forever, but parents don't think we'll last. I don't know what to do, they keep yelling at me to go back to SIU. HELP!!!!
2006-08-18 15:54:05 · 8 answers · asked by curious 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
We do plan to get married, he wants me to focus on school. Which I love that about him. He supports my every move. He makes sure my priorities are straight. I just wish my parents could see that.
2006-08-18 16:37:29 · update #1
You are old enough to make these decisions for yourself. You need to do what you think is right and what's going to make you happy. Tell your parents that you love them and appreciate their opinions and concern but this is something that you have to do.
2006-08-18 16:05:39 · answer #1 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definately have a bit of a situation here. Technically you are old enough to do whatever you want. However, its obvious that your parents play an important part in your life, or you wouldnt even be considering what they might think. Is there any particular reason why you are moving in with him? Do you both have plans to get married or anything which signals a commitment? As a parent of teenagers I wouldnt encourage them to move in with someone unless there was going to be some sort of commitment. Moving in with one another is a HUGE step. Then there is always the addage "why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free". Your parents are looking out for your best interests. There must be some reason why they think your relationship wont last. If youre going to be together forever then what is the rush? Im assuming you can still move there in a year or two years or whenever you finish college. If so, why not wait until you are engaged or he offers some other sort of commitment.
Good luck girly!
2006-08-18 23:19:12 · answer #2 · answered by Judi V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am also 21. I feel that most parents care about their children and does not want them to make mistakes that they might regret for the rest of their lives. If the opposite sex moves in with one another (not family) it is just a matter of time before they want to explore, especially if they like each other. In other word, be carful what you get into, think carefully before you make your final decision. If he really wants to live with you, why aren't you married yet? Ask him about marriage and see what his reaction would be (ask him about marriage and after you've seen his reaction make your decision).
2006-08-18 23:10:47 · answer #3 · answered by Niemand 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best way to see if it's gonna work is to live together first . I think your parents are afraid you won't finish collage most girls don't they end up pregnant and put there life on hold to raise the kids. they just want the best for you.my daughter got hooked up with a loser[not saying your guy a loser] I let her realize it herself, it took a year but she's back home now.sometimes we just need to let you learn for yourself but we still try to protect you no matter how old you are.sounds like you have a good guy good luck.
2006-08-18 23:19:45 · answer #4 · answered by smurfette_ftwayne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, you should really wait to move in with your boyfriend. Do you want to merry this guy? You obviously really like him enough to move in with him.........I think that you should wait....Do you know that psychologist say that more people that move in together split up more often then thoughts who wait....if you have no intention of getting married, then perhaps you should really sit down and think about what you are really doing......and who are you doing this for......
2006-08-18 23:43:42 · answer #5 · answered by KeLs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your parents are probably right. wait until you are at least engaged, Then move in with him. moving in with him right now might sabotage th relationship.
2006-08-18 23:03:01 · answer #6 · answered by mona 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at it this way, you have a regular man to take his pay check away from.
2006-08-18 23:04:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
kill your parents
2006-08-18 23:06:47 · answer #8 · answered by Cuchuflito 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋