2006-08-18 15:52:55 · 13 answers · asked by Golden 2 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
That is okay to adore your father. And to strive for his approval as long as it doesnt completey affect all your choices in life.
He's not living your life for you! It's your life. If you are happy doing everything that makes him happy, honestly and heart-ful happy then there is nothing BAD with that, is there?
Life is about enjoying!
2006-08-18 15:58:53 · answer #1 · answered by Miz_Kassandra 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm 23 and I know what you're saying!!! I felt the same way for a long time until a few months ago. My dad wasn't really in my life growing up but I was always a "daddy's girl"! He let me down big time by not trying to understand who I am or encouraging to be myself. He always wanted me to do the things that he thought was right and do it his way. I had no freedom to make my own decisions. Anyway, long-story-short, you can't depend on anyone to make you feel good about yourself except for yourself. You have to approve of yourself before you can look for anyone elses approval, and then why would you need it if you already have your own???? Find what you're looking for in yourself and forget about everyone else, especially daddy because you're already 50 and not getting any younger!!! All they'll do is let you down!
2006-08-18 23:31:46 · answer #2 · answered by binoxi 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that's natural, I'm 14 though so I don't really know what I'm talking about here. But really, even when we're older we always view our parents as a form of guidance, they helped shape our lives. And someone elses approval is always great, it help us build confidence.
2006-08-18 22:59:47 · answer #3 · answered by Steph 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who's Your Daddy?
http://youtube.com/watch?v=7s-GyDoluNs&mode=related&search=
2006-08-18 23:06:25 · answer #4 · answered by -.- 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have a friend who has lived in a hell of a marriage for 30 years (he and his wife are in their late 50's. They have no children, they are both independently wealthy, they are healthy and have great jobs. The only thing wrong with their lives is thay they HATE each other and barely even live together. Why don't they divorce and try to find someone new? The man is AFRAID of his father's disapproval. He has actually said to my husband and I, "I can't divorce my wife...what would my FATHER SAY?!" Can you believe it? He lives out his life in quiet desparation waiting for his father to die so he can get on with his life. I have five children myself and I hope that NONE of them are that simple minded as to live thier lives based on their hope of pleasing me!
2006-08-19 00:48:26 · answer #5 · answered by ckswife 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That may be somewhat normal. I know that I feel that way. I'm 31 and my Dad is 65. My counsellor told me that we have 2 "inner parents." One is a critical parent and one is a nurturing parent. We must stop being critical parents to ourselves, and become our own nurturing parent. In other words, speak to yourself like a nurturing parent would speak to his/her child.
Also, there are times when we all become like children, who long for the love and attention of our parents. But there is also the adult within us. We constantly shift from child to adult in various situations. It is much healthier (and much more satisfying) to be the adult. This does not mean we can't have fun and all. But try to notice yourself as you shift from "parent" to "child." Just notice it, and see if you can start to control it eventually. My counsellor has a little kid's seat that he points to and when I'm being like a child, he says "You're sitting in the child's seat. Get up and move to the adult seat!" Then see how things look different. Your perspective changes as you "switch seats."
All of this takes much work, but this has helped me.
2006-08-18 23:38:08 · answer #6 · answered by Heron By The Sea 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it, but if you haven't felt like you've gotten that by now, I don't think your going to get it from him now. Sometimes its just better to accept the person for his or her weaknesses and try to find that acceptance and approval from within yourself. Good luck.
2006-08-18 23:01:20 · answer #7 · answered by kiltedbiker 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course you do. Promise me something. You will buy, borrow or check out "Captivating: Unveiling the Mystery of a Woman's Soul" by John and Stasi Eldredge.
It will tell you why you feel this way and how to remedy it.
2006-08-18 22:59:37 · answer #8 · answered by Sir J 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will not care for my advice.
You long for you father's approval, admiration, his OK.
When you cease the longing, the rest will follow.
Give up your desire and what you desire will no longer be important. And then your desire will be fulfilled.
2006-08-18 23:03:01 · answer #9 · answered by Temple 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
So do I but be happy hes still here and stay as close to him
as ever, you only ger one dad SO CHERISH HIM
2006-08-18 23:04:11 · answer #10 · answered by .................................... 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋