I moved in with my bd...he stated that it was for financial reasons and that he has no romantic feelings towards me and does not want to try to be in a relationship.... but.....i constantly get mixed signals. we have a great time 2gether, just being around each other. Constantly make each other laugh, we act like little kids together. He hates the thought of me having a boyfriend. And he held me the other day...wow it felt soooo good! And his peck on the cheek was saying something else....believe me. He mentioned wanted to be married b4 we made this move and that the other women he was dating did not do it for him. We never argue, never have and we don't ever want to. Well, I think I finally want to tell him.....that he is the man I want in me and our childs life. I admit, I want to M.... him. I couldn't imagin being the wife of anyone else. but i am so scared. wat do i do? i think he wants the same. why won't he ask? unless, it is my wishful thinking. wat should i do?
2006-08-18 15:50:59 · 9 answers · asked by lukin4answers 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Read "Way of the Superior Man" by David Deida... and encourage him to read it, too.
It is one of the best books on relationships ever written.
2006-08-18 16:08:03 · answer #1 · answered by My View 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is a "bd"? You have a child together, yet he's dating other women, while living with you, and only made this decision for "financial reasons", hmmm.
Don't sell yourself short. Do NOT have unprotected sex with him again. How can you ask him to step up to the plate, when you can't even type the word "Marry". I'd hate to see you try to speak it.
Now, no relationship is perfect. We are not perfect, but damn. He sounds like he wants to have his cake and eat it too, without giving you one crumb.
2006-08-19 01:02:43 · answer #2 · answered by *~*~*~~~His Angel~~~*~*~* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, just sit down and be completely honest with him. If you want a relationship with this man that leads to marriage. Start off on the right foot by letting him know how you feel. Good Luck!
2006-08-18 23:01:01 · answer #3 · answered by mrskj007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would sit down with him and mention that you know that he said that he did not want any kind of relationship with you , that he said that he feels nothing for you romanticaly. then tell him though that you feel as if things have changed, that you feel that he does see something in you that gets his attention on another level other than just friends, that you are starting to feel more for him, to where you realy want to be with him. tell him that you understand if you were reading him wrong and that if he still just wants to be friends thats ok. but tell him that the kissing on the cheak and cuddling thing has to stop, so that you dont have the opportunity to make that mistake again. and if he says that he does feel for you then ya know what , good for you! be with him, i mean you have made it clear on here how your feelings are, if he is feeling that he wants a relationship to then tell him how much you realy care for him! good luck, its not easy but you can do it.
2006-08-18 23:18:53 · answer #4 · answered by Blonds Rock 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound as if you are at sea, dear,....the only place you can get the response you need is from HIM. The advantage here is that you can pick WHERE & HOW the issue is breached. Sell it well, girl, it sounds like a good thing. Good Luck!
2006-08-18 23:02:27 · answer #5 · answered by longhair140 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should sit him down & tell him everything you feel in your heart. & if he feels the same way you'll know but if he does'nt, then you can move on & stop wondering. I hope it works out for you.
2006-08-22 20:27:42 · answer #6 · answered by Yessie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all u need to do is talk to him..tell him exactly what you're telling us here...there's no room to be scared otherwise, the chance of you and him together might just slip...if u love him, take the risk :) whatever comes out of it, no regrets, you've done your best :)
2006-08-18 23:16:08 · answer #7 · answered by just me:) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest and use your head, leave the ****** and find someone you will love....forever. Hello WAke up and smell the coffee....
2006-08-18 23:54:24 · answer #8 · answered by SNOWMAN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is the best policy...it's either meant to be or it isn't!!!
Best wishes and good luck
2006-08-18 23:33:23 · answer #9 · answered by itsjustme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋