for the older women with younger guys..........?

Question

Young girls bore me, I'm 19 but I've noticed that young girls are very materialistic and immature. Now, I'm not generalizing, i'm just saying through prior experience that most older women see things in a different spectrum and are much more experienced. Like I said there are alot a girls my age that are very mature but, they lack the experience of an older woman............. basically, I would like to know how a younger guy can approach an older woman without being categorized as a kid with an agenda.

experience: knowledge in life, the ability to see people's bullshit, open minded in culture, style, and knowing how to handle responsibity. obviously an older woman will be more experianced in sex, but i could care less about that, thats my agenda.....

as for my future, I know at 19 there isn't much accomplishment there, but, right now i'm in my second year of college with a 3.3, double majoring in psycology and architecture, and my job right now is at a g.c firm working with architects.........and at 19, I alone am the head of the household.....im paying my dues in life now so I wont struggle when I'm older.

Answer 1

If you find a woman you are interested in the first thing is to be friendly. Don't come on to her as if your asking for a date. Take your time she how she response. Offer a soda or coffee watch response ask to sit an chat. You will be able to tell if she has any interest right away. An older woman don't usually play games. They let you know if you are bothering them. My husband is 10 years younger than I. We started with coffee at Waffle House and plenty of good down home conversation. Had alot in common right away and he kicked off from there. Our first sort of date was a week later. We just drove around talking, went and got food and talked some more. After that it just excelled and we've been married 5 3/4 years now.

Answer 2

Dude, an older woman can see right through you, no matter how you try to present yourself. You've heard older women are better in bed, that's your agenda. Also, I think you sell younger women short, they are not all materialistic and immature, you're just focusing on the ones that are. Believe me, no older woman, let's say any woman over 30, would want to be with a 19 year old young man, who can't relate to her on a more mature level. You're 19 for chrissakes! You wouldn't be trying to lose your virginity, would you? Enjoy being young, because someday you're going to be an old dude who wishes he had enjoyed his youth while he had it, instead of trying to be something he is not. Yeah, older women do go with younger guys, but not 19! Give it a few more years, when you really do have some experience to offer an older woman, and some interesting conversation.

Answer 3

Isn't jail bait under 21? or is it 18 in most states?
Anyway, your "kid with an agenda" shows when you call a woman "more experienced". More experienced at what? Usually more experienced means sex, and your agenda is sex.

When men date women older than them in a lot of cases it means the male doesn't want to be responsible for her...and frankly a guy who won't take responsibility is a bore.

An older woman usually has education and a career, a car and maybe a house and pays for herself. At 19, do you have a career, a degree or MBA, a new car and a house? If not, then save your "looking for an older woman" until you're at least 30.

Answer 4

i imagine what you're dealing with is totally generic. Older women favor to be round youthful men because they're extra care loose i imagine. purely as older men favor to be with young women because those are not those wanting households right now away usually. anybody needs a boyfriend/female friend that they could have exciting with. as well because the more youthful better half makes you sense youthful. I have heard many situations as well that men attain sexual height of their late kids even as women do not attain it till eventually they're of their mid Thirties. This also makes for more effective distances in age in a lot of relationships. All i am going to say from own journey extremely is that the older you get, the a lot less age concerns. once you're on your 20's, 5 years is a commonly used distinction the position as once you're on your 50's, 10 years isn't a lot of a distinction anymore. And when you're in Hollywood, there aren't any regulations lol. -lady 32

Answer 5

I don't agree with sophieb. According to her, in a relationship Men are supposed to be responsible for women so what role would women play? I think the responsibility has to be shared between the two. On the other hand, having a Carrier, a car and a house may become a huge barrier for the relationship but not necessarily an insurmountable one (which is partly my case).
I think you don't need to change your 'tactics' to approach women according to their ages. Be yourself and it'll work out just fine.
One more thing, there are young women out there who can appreciate a man for what he is, and might be very experienced just as you are, so don´t miss the opportunity to know them too.

Good Luck

Answer 6

If you are more at their level then they will naturally notice this about you the more they get to know you. Then...make your move.

I am all for what you want to do, but from a woman's opinion, I don't want a younger guy (for the same reasons you stated plus others). Good luck anyways.

Answer 7

Hey I agree with you,I'm a young lady who thinks the same thing except about Men.I just never saw myself wanting to be with guys my age cause they are immature,not all though.I 've liked older guys cause they are more mature and experienced.Of course I'm engaged to one right now and I'm happy with him and of the age thing (I'm 25 he is 43) it don't bother us at all we love each other.I agree with songbird just be yourself.Just be careful make sure she isn't a contol freak or doing drugs.God Bless you!

Answer 8

Just be yourself. Older women would think that you are more mature by not acting like someone you aren't.

Answer 9

I prefered younger guys, and I think most women should, since we usually live longer than men.

Answer 10

Don't approach them with an "agenda."

Be yourself.