2006-08-18 15:48:06 · 7 answers · asked by Golden 2 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
that is great. your father must be a great man. there is nothing wrong wanting your father's admiration & approval. infact as the parents get older weneed to be more affectionate towards them so that they feel important in the family. otherwise they feel neglected even if u looking after them well. i congratulate u for making your father's life more meaningful in his old age. hope your children also will do the same for u. i used to feel the same way with my father. now that he is nomore i miss him.be your father's darling till it lasts.
2006-08-18 15:58:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with that. Most people want their parents approval. Do you feel you're ok without having it though?
Wanting his approval and needing his approval are two very different things.
Admire him but realize you may never have his approval. Self-approval is the most important thing.
Just love him and accept what he can give---whatever it is. My dad recently died and I feel it wasn't until the very end that I finally got his approval. We were about as opposite as could be n he just didn't approve of anything I believed in. I made peace with not really having his approval and having made that peace I understood him better. I understood where he was coming from and I dropped some of my walls. Paradoxically, when I opened up more, it created a space where he somewhat accepted me.
Just be grateful he's alive and love him unconditionally.
Life is very short.
2006-08-20 12:10:12 · answer #2 · answered by .. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all i admire the way u have put it, i mean not many of us here ever at the age of 50 would want their dad's approval, etc... they wouldnt even want him. Iam sure your dad was a great man if u still long for his support..... but its also a very weak issue. You at the age of 50 should be setting example to ur kids.... not be a kid to ur father.
You should always admire him, but learn to move on to the next face of life.
I never can remember times when my dad would have ever advised or approved of anything i did. But i miss him now that he is no longer. I wish i had a all new start, all over again, and iam not even 25 :(
You are lucky.
2006-08-18 16:01:18 · answer #3 · answered by DU 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is natural to want our fathers approval, at any age, since it is an in-print left by our education as a child. The thing is: you want his approval, or do you need his approval ?
My advice is to analyze your childhood.
I also think that you are very fortunate to still have your father.
2006-08-18 16:09:18 · answer #4 · answered by antvelarde 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your father is not going to change and at 50+ you need to take a very hard look at what it is in your life that makes you need this this much. You can't change him only yourself and I do believe strongly you need to exam your own needs and desires and how this longing for your daddy is affecting current relationships outside the father/daughter one.
2006-08-18 15:55:07 · answer #5 · answered by charmingchatty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I respect you for your admiration and love of your father.Treasure him,you wont have him a lot longer.God bless
2006-08-18 15:55:17 · answer #6 · answered by mustang 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's ok dear...cherish these feelings..i was the same way and then he died unexpectadly...i miss trying to make him happy with me
2006-08-18 15:54:54 · answer #7 · answered by jstrmbill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋