he is too big for me and everytime we have sex I cant walk for a few days, I went to the doctor because, I thought it was something wrong but, it wasnt he is just a very large man, and I am a thick woman, I dont know what to do because, it is good but bad later, I love my husband, but this is really painful for me, what can I do? it almost makes me want to get in a poly relationship...at least I would have some time to heal.
2006-08-18 15:45:49 · 35 answers · asked by Let's be real 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
okay, his pittymen "penis" for 5 years I have been dealing with it because, it is good! but it kills me later, I am 185lbs. 5ft 9 and he is 6f 1" ....188lbs... so we are not big people, I use a lot of ky..he sometime get angry because, I have to wait almost a week for the next time, he is very gental but, it doesnt help, I think because I am getting older it is harder for me than when I was in my 20s, we are in our early 30s ....
2006-08-18 16:00:13 · update #1
Your name is "let's be real" so when you gonna start?
2006-08-18 15:50:31 · answer #1 · answered by sweet_leaf 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't get it. Exactly how big is your husband?
If the aftermath is so painful that you can't walk for days there might be something else going here. Was the doctor you saw a gyno? If so, get a second opinion. If not, see one. You may have fibroids, cysts or some other internal problem. You really shouldn't be in pain to the point where you can't walk no matter how big he is.
Meanwhile talk with your husband. Use lots of lubricant. Explore positions that would be more comfortable for you. For example if you're on top you can control the depth, speed and angle of the stroke. Go slow. Find a happy medium that works for both of you or don't do it at all.
2006-08-18 16:13:06 · answer #2 · answered by genuine1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you having rough sex? If so maybe you two should try going slow and soft. Oh it also helps if you get the best lubrication for your body. Does he know how you are being effected by his large penis? If not be open and honest he may even have ideas or suggestions. Girl I can say one thing your situation is a lot different from many women in the wold hash. Seriously if you in that much pain a couple days after sex that can not possibly be good for your body especially your female parts. As your husband I'm sure he would understand your miser and pain. Also ask your OB/GUN if there is anything you can do to decrease or eliminate the pain.
2006-08-18 15:59:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did not indicate what your doctor recommended. It would interesting to know what the doctor had to say. Did you discuss in detail the problem to the doctor. If you haven't I strongly suggest that you do that. I would also talk with your husband. Maybe he can be a little more gentle. Also try some lubricates. Is this something that has just happened or has this always been a problem?
2006-08-18 15:56:57 · answer #4 · answered by ADRIENNE S G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH......I thought you meant large in full body size, until I read some of the answers. That's a serious problem and you have been like this for 5yrs. Guess I would suggest to go ahead with the poly thing.
2006-08-18 15:53:20 · answer #5 · answered by auntkarendjjb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So size do count, 5 years and it still hurts how big is this guy,was he your first , you love him but do you think you should go through live hurt all the time ,i would get him off other way most of the time have sex every 3 weeks or something.
2006-08-18 15:58:59 · answer #6 · answered by powernewfie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm... There's a couple of options. One is that you could try to start streaching yourself out with either another (smaller) guy or (better option) a series of viberators or dildos. Use a lot of lube when you do have sex. And take things really slowly. If all else fails, try to do other things than sex to get your kicks.
2006-08-18 15:59:16 · answer #7 · answered by Rob D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your Husband there are ways to get rid of this problem but what i dont understand is 5 years and you are just now complaining about it try lubricants and tell him to slow it down or you use positions that you get to control the pace.
2006-08-18 15:55:46 · answer #8 · answered by CaliMa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you baby, and it's a problem that can result in the end of marriage. It did for me. My wife and I are still the very best of friends, but my penis was too large for her tight little body.
we loved each other, but intercourse and even oral sex on her part was not possible.
2006-08-18 16:43:24 · answer #9 · answered by lightning14 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW, the question is how have you dealt for the last five years. I say use plenty of KY and make sure you have a lot of foreplay. Make sure he takes it gentle and you should survive. If you haven't had kids already, wait till you have them, it def. wont be so tight anymore!
2006-08-18 15:52:37 · answer #10 · answered by toobadfaya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him and try to work something out,like tell him don't go in too deep.I really don't know what to say I've never had that problem.You been taking it for 5 years why does it suddenly hurt so bad now?
2006-08-18 15:52:59 · answer #11 · answered by Blucontrell Esminosa-Garcia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋