when i'm on top of my hubby trying hard to reach climax but it doesn't work. Should I think of something else when on top of him? I mean he's great in bed but in the end I end up lying syaing yeahhh I'm satisfied. What should I do?
I'm female age 26
2006-08-18 15:29:48 · 17 answers · asked by sml 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
let him give u oral sex to the point where u climax.. or lay on ur back w/ur legs on his shoulders, or when ur on top lean back..
2006-08-18 15:34:34 · answer #1 · answered by Queen D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) Never lie to your husband about this type of thing. Very, very bad. He's your husband - if you are unsatisfied you are headed for a direction he will no longer be your husband. If he is a real man, he will be more than interested in how to make sure you are having the most enjoyable sexual experience possible.
2) Refer to #1
If you can't get it on top then don't do that to get it. Get it? It's not unusual for a woman not to reach climax from penetration at all. You need to tell your husband what works for you and what doesn't. Men are generally very dumb when it comes to the female orgasm and how to get them there. It does not help when every single woman is a little different in some way. Men are easy... just about anything can get us off!
If he likes you on top, simply explain that you have a hard time "getting it done" on top. You will do it... but he needs to take care of business for you as well. Either get you off before you get on top or after he gets off - but one way or another honey, get yours! There are plenty of other ways to make sure each partner is satisfied. But please... don't ever lie about it. You are doing more damage to his psyche to lie about it. Can you imagine if he ever found out? Ever see a man curl up into the fetal position and cry like a 5 year old girl who lost her favorite Barbie? Well, you probably won't see him do that - but you may as well because if he finds out you will become the most vindictive, B!TCHY, cold hearted, never happy, frigid (c-word) he has ever come in contact with.
2006-08-18 22:50:06 · answer #2 · answered by snapshot 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax and do not try so hard. Maybe have been touch you in places that heightens your pleasure. You may need to find out yourself how you need to be touched in order to have an orgasm, so you do not feel pressured or under a time constraint. Do not fake it if you are not satisfied. Maybe he is not as good as you say he is, or not good enough for you. Does he know you and what you like? This is what you need to work on. If you are unsure how to tell him this try showing him yourself, bring home books or movies to share. If you are not satisfied this will not work and you may look elsewhere.
2006-08-18 22:39:41 · answer #3 · answered by louwho 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rub your clit at the same time. Maybe a different position will work better...I like doggie style..my hubby's balls slap my clit...
But I must say that even I have to take care of business by my self once in a while.
2006-08-18 22:37:15 · answer #4 · answered by Chris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For women... i've heard... achieving orgasm is mostly psychological. From what I've assertained from what you've written, it's seems to me that you seem as though you feel required to orgasm. This in turn places undue stress upon your psyche, thereby inhibiting your ability to orgasm. It's a vicious cycle, really. My best advise is... relax... lose yourself in the moment. Look into your partners eyes and **** the **** outta him. If that doesn't work... well... my number is........ :)
2006-08-18 22:46:50 · answer #5 · answered by Marty B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not lie to him because he will think he is doing good when he isn't. You are only hurting yourself. Instead have him do what you like, tell him it would really turn me on if you did... It really is not that hard he would probably love that you tell him that. Try it , it can't hurt
2006-08-18 23:10:50 · answer #6 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It becomes easier for me to climax during sex after I have had oral...if that doesn't help try using toys during...but only if your comfortable with that
2006-08-18 22:40:35 · answer #7 · answered by mama bear 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What works for my wife is a full body massage followed by some oral sex! Good luck.
2006-08-19 00:04:46 · answer #8 · answered by Archangel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Um, yeah..duh! All of us women do that. Sometimes, no matter how much you love your man, you still gotta fantasize a bit. No biggie!
2006-08-18 22:49:31 · answer #9 · answered by Amanda K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
foreplay before sex alway's helps, Gives your body that little extra to get ready for a orgasm. oral and fingers, let him know where it feels the best and go from there
2006-08-18 22:39:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋