Do any gays believe that being gay is a choice or can be a choice? No offence, just curios?

Answer 1

Gay is NOT a choice. You choose to ACT on your homosexual urges or not.

Answer 2

I do believe its inborn. The evidence becomes more overwhelming every year.

Two things in particular I'm going to point to. A number of major studies have been done of animals. All the species studied had homosexual behavior -- and all the species that had pair bonds at all had homosexual pair bonding TO THE EXCLUSION OF MATING WITH THE OPPOSITE SEX IN HEAT. Explain how that is even possible as a choice for animals? (the best book in this particular field is probably Dr. Bruce Bagemihl's book "Biological Exuberance" from St. Martin's Press -- from its bibliography you can find many others, and you can easily find other studies that look at the same phenomena.)

2nd -- the Fruit-fly study. The results for fruit-flies can't be denied (link below). People are trying to say that just because it applies to fruit-flies it doesn't have to to people. Alright, while I accept that the genetic mechanism is much more complex among humans -- why on earth would something like homosexuality be completely genetic in simple species and not genetic at all in the most complex species? It makes no sense, particularly given that no gay person I know EVER remembers being attracted to a female. Bisexuals are attracted to both. Gays are only attracted to same sex. So -- how is that a choice? Isn't it just the opposite of what straight people feel? An inborn automatic response. Period.

Standing against science, common sense, and logic -- you have a bronze age book that people keep telling each other is divine, but which says the earth has corners (Isaiah 11:12), sits on pillars (I Samuel 2:8), and is on top of the water (Psalms 24:1-2). The book says beetles have 4 legs not 6 (Leviticus 11: 21-23) and states that rabbits chew cuds (which they do NOT) (Deuteronomy 14:7). Given that choice, despite the emotional benefits that I'm sure some people gain from believing that the bronze age book is correct on this, just like it is on the corners -- I'll go with the logic, science and common sense.

Regards,

Reynolds Jones
Schenectady, NY
http://www.rebuff.org

Answer 3

i've answered this question a number of times...

Are we born straight? As I understand it, we are all assumed to be straight right from the moment we fly out of the womb. Just the same way parents say he's gonna play football, or she's gonna be a model. All assumptions.

I chose to be gay. I was not born gay, then again I wasn't born straight. It has always been assumed I would be straight, marry a a wonderful lady and have beautiful children of my own. I guess society seems to thrust this idea of a "normal" life upon us. Afterall, at school we barely touch homosexuality in sex education. Why is that? Oh yes, to thrust upon us a heterosexual lifestyle. I wasn't trying to be rebellious or any such nonsence, but I chose to be gay because it made me happy. I knew I was when i was about 12 years old, but that's when I thought "hey, maybe there's more to life than what's being thrusted upon me". I'm gay and I would never look the other way. I am proud of who I am. People think that being gay is a big thing... it's not. it's just preference. Someone likeing one flavour of ice cream and another person liking a different flavour of ice cream. that's a big as it is.

Answer 4

I'm sure that there are some gays that believe that, but not out of logic, reason, or personal experiences. They've probably reached this conclusion based on the messages sent to them by the predominately hetero environment or because of some form of emotional crisis that is blinding their judgment. The truth is that being gay is not a choice, but there are many choices to be made as far as how it effects your lifestyle. Of course being gay doesn't mean having sex with the same gender, as a virgin can still be gay,an overly horny hetero who has had sex with the same gender can still be straight, or a homosexual denying who he/she is is still a homosexual. It has far more to do with the nature of the individual and their person identity. It is entirely comparable to what makes a person straight. Did anyone choice to be straight?

Answer 5

Here's the thing. Being gay is not a choice. Acting gay is a choice. What I mean by that is that people can't choose who they are attracted to BUT we can choose who we have sex with. It's time that the gay community (my community) stops trying to say "we can't help it it's not a choice" and instead say "hey we like men is there something wrong with that?". If it was found that petaphiles didnt choose to be attracted to children would that make it acceptable? No! So the gay community needs to stop using that lame excuse. Please don't misunderstand that ... gays and petaphiles are two different things. It is WRONG to have sex with children. and it is not wrong at all for two men to have sex. I was just comparing their two methods of excusing their sexual behavior. Make any sense?

Oh and no offence taken. You can never offend a homosexual by trying to understand more about what makes them who they are as long as you are being polite and genuine.

Answer 6

I happen to be straight by choice rather than 'gay by choice' - but it is nonetheless... a real and sometimes difficult choice.

But I am content with who I am. I am celibate and very happy that I have the ability to love everyone pretty much the same. It feels really good inside.

I am also glad I am aware of my desires because this awareness is what enables me to make choices about what I will do with my body, so that I will not be caught by surprise 20 years from now.

And above all, I am very glad for the opportunities my situation gives me to experience and speak of God's grace, goodness and love.

May we all come to know His love in increasing measure, and may He bless us and keep us in it!

Answer 7

I think people are born as blank slates, and that their social environments influence them as they mature. With that said, it can be both a choice, and something that may be considered "natural"-- depending on their upbringing. If their childhood was one of neutral sexuality, then it'd be a choice, not influenced by outside sources. If it was one with a bit more influence one way or another, if the influence was a bit more homosexual than most, then chances are, the child may be naturally inclined to be homosexual (though that isn't always the case), and vice-versa.

Hope this adequately answers your question.

Answer 8

If being gay is a choice, I was absent the day the straight option was given.

Answer 9

I think the only choice that is ever made is the choice to accept yourself for who you are and be happy with yourself. If you choose to do that, then you choose to live an open lifestyle. If you choose to hate yourself, you end up marrying someone you don't love and end up causing a lot of grief and heartache.

Answer 10

Both. but I was not a lesbian by choice. I believe I was born a lesbian.

So some gay people say its part of growing up, environment factor, or its genetic.