I still love her but I can understand why she moved on. After 2 years, one of my best friends come back from travel and after a couple of months tell us about this girl he is dating. I found out it was my ex-wife, especially when he began avoiding me. He confessed all at his house one day. I was hurt. He told me he'd rather forget the girl that hurt our friendship. He broke off the relationship.
Now I feel bad because he seems depressed and he was so happy to date my ex-wife. I am sure he loved her. I feel as if the right thing to do is to tell him to go back with her, our relationship is over anyway, and besides he loves her. I couldnt pick a better person for her. Even though it would make me sick to my stomach, if he loves her I wouldn't want to stand in the way. I already hurt my ex-wife too much anyway.
What do you think I should do? Should I tell him or just leave it alone?
2006-08-18 15:20:33 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he showed you that he was a good friend by not letting a woman come between you. that is what makes a good friend. he gave up his happiness so you wouldnt get hurt, now maybe you should return the favor and let him be happy. he has already showed you how good of a friend he is, its your turn now.
2006-08-18 15:32:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going to regret having sex with your wife's best friend one day, but that's your problem. In the meantime if you are set on leaving your wife - do a separation - you cannot annul unless your wife claims you too never had sex, which is part of the marriage contract. I suggest you stay single until you learn about yourself and what it is that you need and want from a female, otherwise you will end up sleeping with your next wife's gf and every wife you meet in the near future. Being single and free is not a sin - being married and cheating is unfair to yourself and your wife - and the person you are cheating with. I'm not going to bash you - you'll do that to yourself sooner or later. If she can prove infidelity, depending on the state you are in (most) get ready to leave with your shirt on only - have a friend bring you a spare pair of tousers.
2016-03-26 21:24:09 · answer #2 · answered by Joan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave it alone. You can't control people's behavior. Let the situation play out and if you feel too uncomfortable with the set-up, move-on from both of them. The dynamics are too weird, choices must be made in time. Let your friend really decide what he wants. This is not about you, it's about a decision your ex-wife and friend have to make and if they want to be together then so be it.
2006-08-18 15:31:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell him that as two grown adults him and your ex have every right to be together even though it hurts you. Sometimes it is for the best to let it run its course and maybe you and him can still salvage a friendship. Good luck
2006-08-18 15:27:44 · answer #4 · answered by 51ain'tbad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should tell him that although you still love her (and maybe because of it) that you want her to be happy. If that means dating him, then so be it. If they truly love each other, nothing will be able to stand in their way anyway. How could he forget her if he loved her? Maybe it was just a fling, but give him permission.
2006-08-18 15:40:22 · answer #5 · answered by mab5096 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are so leavel headed.. rare thing.... you are right.. you two broke up and it is over.. and sounds like the friend ship is pretty much over too.. but.. hope you learned your lesson and do not cheat on another women that you want to stay with for a long time.
2006-08-18 15:32:35 · answer #6 · answered by Ibdreamin099 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would he even need your permission to date your ex wife---- she's your ex...... he should be man enough to handle her being your ex but you shouldn't hold your friendship over his head like that either.... leave them both alone and let him make his own decisions about whom he should date....
2006-08-18 15:58:21 · answer #7 · answered by jaimestar64cross 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that u need to realize that u screwed up ur marriage , and since ur the one that screwed up that she has the right to be with anyone that she choses even if its someone close to u.. if u didnt want that to happen then u shouldnt of ever cheated on her.. I think u need to be a man and let ur friend be with her if she wants to be with him and he wants to be with her, and they make each other happy , then let them be, if u care about them.. then u'd want them to be happy..
2006-08-18 15:30:53 · answer #8 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him to go back to her, after all your relationship is over with her and they deserve to be happy, you will find someone new and be happy too.
2006-08-18 15:27:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anna Z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do the right thing, give him the greenlight. He deserves to at least have a chance to be happy with her.
2006-08-18 15:26:49 · answer #10 · answered by Kanga_tush2 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋