i've been with my boyfriend for 3 years . for 2 years we have been arguing about dumb things . just 3 days ago i met someone i told my boyfriend about him how he is interested in me and gave me his number my boyfriend said to me to call him i said no cause i want to work things out with my boyfriend so i saw the new guy again he surprised me at work and i went on a date with him i dont condider this cheating cause i told my boyfriend if he does not pay attention to me or spend any time with me i will find someone else now should i move on or try to make it work with my boyfriend? and should i tell my boyfriend about this?
2006-08-18 15:11:10 · 14 answers · asked by Cat 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I would simply tell my bf that maybe he is right and it is time for me to move on ... so goodbye.
2006-08-18 15:18:55 · answer #1 · answered by nidan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've been fighting for the past 2 years, it's probably not going to get any better. And if you're boyfriend isn't too concerned that you'd met anyone else, and even encourages you to do it... then I think it's safe to say he doesn't have much interest in working things out. He may just be staying because it's his routine, and it's all he's known for the past 3 years. My advice is to move on, and if you decide to go with the new guy... just realize that the chances of this working out is really not good. You should figure out what you want to do with your life-don't think about what anyone else wants you to do because it's ultimately your life. If you're unhappy in your current situation, let it go. Your life is too short to be miserable in this relationship that is going nowhere.
2006-08-18 22:21:14 · answer #2 · answered by Rexy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm not sure if it's actually cheating. On one hand if you're in a relationship you're not supposed to be going out on dates with anyone else unless you've officially ended it or it's an open relationship. But on the other hand you've already told him about the guy and he straight up told you to call the guy so I don't know if it's really cheating or not.
If you're going out on dates with other guys it seems that you are already moving on. Do you want to work things out with your boyfriend because you really want to be with him or because you're just so used to being with him and you feel inclined to work it out because of that.
You have to really decide whether or not you a) do truly want to work it out and b) if it really can be worked out right now. Perhaps your boyfriend just isn't ready to change right now, and if not you certainly shouldn 't sit around and be ignored or mistreated or get into pointless fights until he decides to come around.
To me it sounds like it might be time for you to end it, atleast for the time being. Good luck with everything no matter what you decide.
2006-08-18 22:23:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 me this is cheating, it seems ur boyfriend doesn't care or just might think ur not for real. Maybe u 2 have just grown into what is called a habit. You should tell ur boyfriend a little info. about the other guy. If he doesn't seem to give a ****, then either move on or if ur satisfied w/ stayin w/ him & seeing the other guy 2 w/ out it bothering u, then GO FOR IT!
2006-08-18 22:26:54 · answer #4 · answered by waycrazyme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the date...is not cheating UNLESS you did some kissing or stuff you would normally do with a bf. i know how u feel about arguing about dumb things...because i did that with mine for 3yrs and it sucks! if you bring things to your boyfriend's attention and he doesnt pay attention to it, then tell "this is it. where do you want to go from here? im gonna need to see changes or im out". put your foot down girl...then he's gonna know you're serious. or else he'll just take it as your joking. if he doesnt respond to that, then i say give the new guy a try. to me, your boyfriend doesnt even seem like he cares much anymore because if it was my bf and someone gave me their number...he be HELLA mad and be like "let me speak to him."
good luck to you girl...i hope i helped...even if it's just a liL.
2006-08-18 22:21:07 · answer #5 · answered by mizs_sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like this relationship has been going downhill for quite some time now. I don't consider going on a date cheating, but you aren't being fair to this other guy. Did you tell him you have a boyfriend? You need to figure out if you want to save the relationship or not and take it from there.
2006-08-18 22:18:54 · answer #6 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it's time to move on. Break it off with your boyfriend before you go out on another date. That is the honourable way to handle it. If your boyfriend cares, he will try to convince you not to break up and may start to appreciate you. If not, it's time to get back into the dating pool.
Good luck!
2006-08-18 23:19:41 · answer #7 · answered by LindaLou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DuD I think you have already made your decision when you went on a date with this guy.Yes it is low down dirty cheating,yes I think your b/f should move on.
2006-08-18 22:21:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think its cheating but you should not tell your boyfriend he might take it differently
you should talk with your boyfriend then tell him when everything is resolved
2006-08-18 22:18:17 · answer #9 · answered by Angie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you went out with someone else, then it seems you HAVE moved on!!!!!
2006-08-18 22:17:54 · answer #10 · answered by mustanglady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋