my boyfriend doesn't want me saying any thing more than hi to any of my old male friends or any males at all. i don't think thats right if i am only talking as friends and nothing more than that. i kind of see where he's coming from but i wanted to know what you all think. let me give you anexample, tonight we were at the mall and i saw an old guy friend that i have not seen in a while becuse he was in the army and i gave him a little hug and my boyfriend got pissed. he said the next time i do that he was gonna leave me and i don't want that because we've been together for a year and i want him to be my husband but i don't know why i think its stupid and i can't stop when i know that he doesn't like it. please help i need advice as on what to do. thanks
2006-08-18 15:09:33 · 16 answers · asked by Mrs.Dennis 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
these other females can say the hell what they want.... listen carefully NO GUY wants there woman to be all friendly with guys, ladys face it the only reason us guys are ur friends is so we can one day mess with u, im telling the truth..... u want him as a husband then stop, those guys arnt real ur man is. most likely if a guy doesnt mind if there girl has friends, hes probably cheatin. u females dont get it,lol
2006-08-18 15:29:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to help you out from one married woman, so take this to heart. You don't want to give in to a man that is being jealous, first there is nothing wrong with the fact that you gave an old friend a hug. Don't let your boyfriend make you feel that was wrong it wasn't. if you give in it will be that controlling way for the rest of your life with him especially if you marry him. so please rethink about how you except to be treated, when you are not doing any thing wrong. You are a live and I promise you will come into contact with the male race though out your life my dear he has to trust you if not you are then sitting yourself up for one disappoint after another. I'm sorry to be so blunt. but that is the reality of things. Remember your in a world with the opposite sex.
don't start your life out on the wrong foot in a relationship being told how you should act, I think it was a very nice jester you did.
2006-08-18 17:17:30 · answer #2 · answered by RAINBOW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's definitely not right.
If these guys are just friends there's no reason why you should have to stop speaking to or interacting with them or why he should want you to stop speaking and interacting with them.
If you see an old guy friend it's perfectly okay for you to give him a hug. He's a friend and he's been your friend for a while. No reason that you should have to end all your other non-romantic relationships just because you're now in a romantic relationship.
Sounds to me that your boyfriend is very jealous and controlling and it probably comes from his own insecurities. He needs to check this behavior fast, if not then you need to end it. But if he's already acting this way now his behavior is only going to get worse and nothing positive is going to out of this relationship for you.
2006-08-18 15:31:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-29 10:33:02 · answer #4 · answered by spies 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What he is doing isn't right.
I think that you should stop this problem by talking to him seriously, and if it isn't solved by talking, just don't listen to him and act normal with your friends. If you get to not listening to him and acting normal with your friends, act as you always do with your boyfriend too. Just let him know that you are not listening to him because what he wants you to do isn't good. I don't think that your boyfriend would leave you if you did this. This is what I think you should do.
2006-08-18 15:28:55 · answer #5 · answered by Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he's jealous.. just reassure him that you wouldn't leave him for someone else.. these guys are just friends.. if he can't deal with it then he is being overbearing and that's not right.. he's trying to control you then... and i hate it when women get controlled by their significant others. see where you fall in this.. if he's controlling you, it might be best just to say goodbye (at least for awhile) b/c things like that don't get better.. and i've watched a controlling marriage, and they are impossible to get out of... and they will make you miserable. don't get caught up in that.. best of luck... remember.. TALK to him about this... a serious talk... make sure he hears EVERYTHING that you have to say.
2006-08-18 19:28:08 · answer #6 · answered by daisylady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend's behavior is sociopathic. And the fact that you even need to ask the question is a crystal-clear indicator that you are not ready for dating , let alone even thinking in terms of marriage
2006-08-18 15:23:22 · answer #7 · answered by TalkingDonkey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not jealous, he's insecure which is why he's trying to feel better by controlling every thing you do. You already know all this, surely. Get away from him. There are real people out there, you know. And lots of them are single.
2006-08-18 19:34:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand why some guys are like this. But, at some point, this can be ridiculous. Talk to him about this. Find a good, nice situation where you can all talk with cool heads.
2006-08-18 15:27:49 · answer #9 · answered by Maria J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl, jealous guys arent worth it. if your bf is telling u not to talk to other guys, it's just selfish on his part. do u act like that when he talkes to other girls? i wouldnt think so. so you need to let him know that u're mind n heart are only focussed on him. u need to make it clear to him. if he keeps acting that way, u should really cinsoder letting him go. you cant have someone else trying to control your life. it's not right n it's not fair.
2006-08-18 15:20:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋