i am in middle school now and do not feel the need to join cliques, i feel alone though, what should i do?

Question

plz help!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

not everyone in middle school is in a clique, when i was in school i had a few different groups of friends, i hung out with all different types of people. I am sure if you get to know people you will be able to tell what kind of people are clickee and which are just good all around friends, good luck.

Answer 2

Well in my day highschool was even worse until my senior year and finally people started maturing a little more and i became more outgoing, people started respecting talent even when it was in something that wasnt a popular outlet (like football, cheerleading etc.)

Hang in there. things do get better. I look back now at that time in my life and realize how short and unimportant it actually was.

My suggestion is to find one good friend, someone that shares the same interests as you do, and someone that you can talk to about anything. You find that one person and suddenly the Cliques are not even a blip on the radar. Also find a program doing something you would like to do in off school hours. weather that be band or a sport or something academic its a great way to meat people with similar interests that isnt necessarily a clique

Answer 3

If you can float from clique to clique and have a couple of friends across the board, you're in a pretty good position. In 10 years (where I am *sigh*), you'll find that most people have outgrown the "clique" thing anyway, so if you get into the habit of just being generally cool to everyone, people will be cool to you too.

GOD it's AMAZING how much the small stuff (he/she didn't call today; what's WRONG!?!) mattered in high school ... that is so laughably stupid now!

Besides, you'll make better friends in college than in high school anyway. After you graduate from HS, you'll keep in contact with the 2-3 people who really matter anyway.

Answer 4

Well, sometimes joining the clique can be something you do not for yourself but to make others comfortable around you. Usually those cliques are just a very superficial masquerade, and underneath you'll find complex characters. I'd say just relax, pick which group you'd be most comfortable around, and try to at least be friendly with them. If you do somethiing like 50/50 yourself/clique, they'll respect you for sticking to your guns. It's important sometimes to do those little social games; they'll become much more authentic in a couple of years.

Answer 5

You do not need to join any cliques. If you will not worry about "belonging" so much...just concentrate on your school work....you will make friends in time. Don't be too anxious to join in with a group to be popular....just leave them alone and be yourself.
I know this is hard to understand...I was like you when I was your age. If I could just go back and do it all over. I wouldn't be so eager to have friends. Just let it happen..you will have friends.

Answer 6

I'm sorry to tell you this, but you can't really "join" cliques in middle school.. You just have to be accepted by them.

Which sucks, I know - but seriously just be yourself, but be very friendly in a nice, non-overbearing way. Girls can be catty but middle school goes quickly. High school will be much better - cliques tone down and most people come out of their shells.

Plus the prevalence of parties makes it easier to make friends & socialize. good luck!

Answer 7

If you really feel no need to join them, then you are on your way babe. It usually takes people years to realize this.
I didnt realize this until I was in college, coincidentally I became the center of attention. Just be patient, please be patient, and you will see.
Your young, seek the attention of family and close friends, as in 20 years the cliques will be gone and the friends and family will still be there. Cultivate those relationships and the passing ones will fall into place later on.

Answer 8

It may be tough at first, but definitely avoid the cliques. Longtime, true friends are rarely found in cliques. Just be you and do not put up any kind of front or people will like who they think you are and who you really are.

Answer 9

Don't worry about it. Cliques are not all that they are cracked up to be, and for the most part, all they do is backstab each other.
Find others who have the same interests as you (afterschool clubs are a great place for this), and hang out.

Answer 10

I wasn't accepted in cliques either in school....I read and wrote a lot of poetry and short stories, believe it or not. It helps to alleviate the loneliness. But, keep a few friends close to your heart, they can help a lot to. Here's to your successful middle school career, and everything that follows!!!!