I had been with my man for 7yrs & we have kids together, well he confessed that he cheated & may have a baby on the way. He wants us to work it out, but I say "H8ll No!" Should I take him back?
2006-08-18 14:46:09 · 20 answers · asked by justified 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
As men we are easily led by.... wrong thoughts. Some of us do realize we were wrong for cheating and when forgiven never stray again. Once is a mistake, more than once is taking advantage. What it comes down to is, can you trust him again?Have a heart to heart talk with him ask anything you need and let him say what's on his mind. Then you decide if he is really sorry. Good Luck
2006-08-18 15:22:45 · answer #1 · answered by Archangel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your asking the question then you want to take him back... now theres nothing wrong with that, because thats how you feel ...
It will be hard to see the kid,,, or even him ...everytime you look at him your gonna wanna slap the sh** out of him.. and you should feel that way....
What hurts me is that he did not take into consideration catching something...... yes AIDS!
He didn't care for you that much... the other gir was more important.... getting some was more important then your life...
Girl ! DROP HIS SORRY A** WHO THE HEL* WAS GONNA RAISE YOUR KIDS
To have your kids see you go through so much before you die...taking 20 pills a day ... stooling on you uncontrollable ... becoming so weak that you need help just for your daily needs
Your life is far to important to let some A**hole mess it up... You may have kids with him... you may still love him... but always remember you have to love yourself first do this for you... and then do it for the kids... set a example for your kids to follow.show them that you don't let people do what ever they want with you...... you have a right to say what it is you want...
Before I leave ... Sista Girl... I want you to enjoy life as if it was your last.... live , love, laugh
Never go to bed without asking the lord to guide you through
Mscaramelow
2006-08-18 22:48:26 · answer #2 · answered by lapeachroses 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the saying once a cheater always a cheater is usually true, but he confessed to you so that's a big plus, why don't the two of you try relationship counseling and see where it goes from there no one can really give advice to this situation you just need to see how things go if things are meant to be they will be
2006-08-18 21:59:05 · answer #3 · answered by cslynn1980 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hell no, if he cheated on you once ..he'll do it again..and then he has the nerve to sleep around on you and didn't even use protection??!! now he has a baby on the way besides adding salt to the wound, he obviously doesn't care about how you feel because what if he had given you and std that you couldn't get rid of ..what would happen to YOUR kids, then.. hell no...it's too many men out there that would be faithful to you. Move on and dump the guy.
Good luck
2006-08-18 22:00:21 · answer #4 · answered by dam_i_give 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can't tell you what to do but i will say this my husband and i have been married for ten years and he cheeted on me once and i didn't leave him cause i can't afford to that is beside the point but i told him that i forgave him and we are sticking together but in the back of my mind when ever he goes out at night may it be to a side job or just out with the guys i can't help but think that he is cheating on me again so think about it if you want to have the constant reminder that 1 he could have another child that you all will have to be responsable for and the thought of taking him back then go for it but if you don't want the stress that it will bring to you and your kids then leave him
2006-08-18 22:01:12 · answer #5 · answered by christy b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could take him back but it wouldn't be worth it. He cheated on you, and yeah he admitted it and all that. But the point it he cheated on you. So even if you take him back, you'll never be able to completely trust him again and these feelings will just lead to more problems. You guys could try counseling and all that. But in my experience, it will end eventually anyway for the simple reason, there will never be 100% trust again. My final advice is, end it now and move on.
2006-08-18 21:58:34 · answer #6 · answered by Crisen H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a big huge mistake if you ask me. It would be very hard for you to trust him again and now he has a child (which is not the baby's fault) that is going to be in your life reminding you everytime that he or she is the product of being unfaithful. If you can love that child and let the baby be in your life for the rest of your life and if you can regain the trust of your husband after what he has done to you I would say go for it. You need to think about that one yourself it is your life and no one can really tell you what and not what to do.
2006-08-18 22:02:26 · answer #7 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel ya honey. I am going through the same thing with my husband and it is very upsetting . I think it comes down to how much you both wanna work at it. He says he's sorry, but I don't think he comprehendes how hurtful it is. my advice, follow your heart. you already know the answer, and so do i.
2006-08-18 23:00:04 · answer #8 · answered by pinkrock 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only u can answer that .. but if it was me id have to say no.. more then likely he's realized that OOPS he has messed up more so then cheating, he actually has brought another life into this scenerio, and he's scared out of his mind.. it was fun till that happened.. now with the actual responsibility of what he's done, he is running back to u , basically saying please forgive me and BAIL ME OUT of this bind ive gotten myself into.. he didnt confess out of guilt he confessed out of fear of responsibility.. I say lose him..
2006-08-18 22:34:11 · answer #9 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater, always a cheater. Tell him he made his beds and now you are a big girl and can make your own now without his help. Good luck.
2006-08-18 21:53:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋