Is it acceptable to have a baby shower for a second child?

Question

My first child was a boy and I did not have a baby shower due to complications with my pregnancy. This child is a girl.

Answer 1

I think it's the expected thing do. Each child is a celebration, if you have two boys, two showers are still good. I felt guilty when my co-workers wanted to throw me a shower for my second child when I had a 4 year old son already. Just be thankful and don't feel guilty at all. Congrats! I am wishing you a healthy and safe pregnancy and delivery. :)

Answer 2

yes i did! i had always heard that you don't have one with the second child unless there is a major length in time between the first pregnancy and subsequent pregnancies! i was at least going to have a luncheon or get together or something to celebrate my baby because i feel as though every baby diserves to be celebrated! my mother in law insisted on throwing me another one (there will be a 15 month age difference between my girls) and it reeeally helped (it had a suprising turnout as well i couldn't believe how many friends and family were supportive) because although my babies will be close in age i sold or gave away alot of the stuff i had from the first when she was 5 months old (can you tell this second pregnancy definitely wasn't planned) whether you have a baby shower or a get together make sure you celebrate this pregnancy you'll regret it if you don't because every baby is special in their own way and like i said diserve to be celebrated in some shape form or fashion and don't let anyone tell you otherwise! good luck and congrats on the 2nd baby

Answer 3

If it's been more than 5 years since you had your first child, then it would be ok. Otherwise, baby showers for second or multiple children are usually not done. Remember, baby showers are given by a friend or close family member, on their own accord. I have always thought it rude of people to ask someone to host one for them.

Usually, after a baby is born - close friends & family always bring a gift when visiting the new baby. And then at the baptism/christening celebration.

Answer 4

First or second child, the baby shower is to celebrate the life of a new human. By all means, have a shower for your new baby girl.

Answer 5

Sure, you can do whatever you want. I don't see a problem with it. If you still feel that it may be against the rules of etiquitte, I know that sometimes people have second hand baby showers. If you have friends that have already had girls that are no longer using things. Bedding, toys, cloths etc. they can give those as gifts. Of course everything should be in good condition, but i is a way for people to recycle those old item and for you to get what you need.

Answer 6

No - although lots of people do. The reason for the baby shower is to get you the things you need - since you already have one child, you have many of the larger items (high chairs, play pens, et al), so it's more another opportunity to "get stuff" If friends insist, then make it a theme where the emphasis isn't on gifting - besides, close friends will probably drop in with cute dresses and other outfits after the baby's born.

Answer 7

If you never had a first one, it's fine to have one now. :)

The general rules of etiquette say that a second baby shower is only acceptable when you have a change of life baby (First child is teenager and you find yourself pregnant at a later age.). By then, everything you have (crib, carseat, walker, etc.) is out of date, old, and past the "safe" stage.

Considering you never had a first shower, this would be your first one. :)

Answer 8

A baby shower is meant for all new comers, whether first, second, or third. A baby shower is a way of celebrating this new life, this new gift from God. Have your shower and enjoy, you have earned your right. Congratulations !

Answer 9

Certainly! Every baby deserves to be celebrated, whether it's your first, second, or ninth!

And I think it's especially ok for you to have one now, because not only didn't you get to have one before, but this baby is a different sex. Sure, you might've saved all of your son's things, but wouldn't your daughter look funny in an outfit that says 'Ladies Man' or some blue overalls with dump trucks?

Answer 10

Know what? I think most people don't hjave but one shower for their first baby. However, if someone wants to give you a shower for your 14th child, then that is THEIR perogative. I see nothing wrong with it. If someone thinks it's inappropriate, then they don't have to come!! My church gives every mother a shower for ONE baby. I have 4 children, but have never had one while attending that church, so when I have my baby, they'll give me one. Now if I have another child (um...NOT!!!) they'll not give me a second one. Nice actually, but not necessary. Have fun, and congrats!!