i have a boyfriend of3yrs for the past 1yr he has been acting distant not reliable he is reliable to his friends and not to me why?
whenever i try to make plans with him he says not now i call u tomorrow why does he do this?
2006-08-18 14:38:27 · 17 answers · asked by Cat 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Wow and you are still with him ?
He moved on, start making plans without him too.
2006-08-18 14:45:19 · answer #1 · answered by Mx2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi!! Look, I know its very difficult to recognize and accept things in life sometimes, but I guess he probably gave up. He is not being sincere with you, cause he is hiding away but not telling you why he is acting that way.Im not saying its your fault, cause you probably gave him all you have. You probably were the best girlfriend. But I would recommend you to ask him directly: what do you want? do you want to stay with me? Are you tired of our relationship? Do you need a break? or Are you interested in someone else? Things that straight and direct. He has to say something, or at least you will find the answer on his look. Thats what I would do. I know if he leaves you it will be very hard for you to relief, cause its 3 years now, but you need to stop suffering with this someway somehow.
Good luck!!
2006-08-18 14:48:36 · answer #2 · answered by bloodymary24 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing, is he seeing someone else. Second thing, if he's not seeing someone else, is he screwing he's friends. Than if that's not it tell him how you feel. If he still appears to be distant maybe you need to put some distance too. Make other plans. Life is to short. Also, know that men are not as passionate about communication like we are. We need attention. They need their friends and video games.
2006-08-18 14:48:19 · answer #3 · answered by tanisha d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely move on. It's amazing to me that you've stuck around for whole year of him being distant and unreliable. That's a long time to let someone who supposed to care about you treat you that way. You deserve better!
2006-08-18 14:52:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's why I'm single now..It's been a week since me and my man spoke and I'm just tired of it...He never wants to come down, I always had to beg and plead for him to come down, I'm done with that. Dump his ***. He should do anything he can to make you happy and keep you
2006-08-18 14:57:13 · answer #5 · answered by Tasha D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems like you are a mature woman with an immature man. it seems as you have grown up while he is still wanting to play with his friends. it is smart of you to wanna make plans. i would find someone else that is more up to your level of maturity.
2006-08-18 14:46:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he is a guy and they need their boy time. Try to be a little more understanding. If you show him that it doesn't bother you, he' more likely to want to do more things with you.
2006-08-18 14:43:32 · answer #7 · answered by mightymight 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should question him directly about the relationship and why the change and if he wants to continue the relationship what is needed to make it work .... tell him how you are really feeling
2006-08-18 14:45:42 · answer #8 · answered by jus j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh no! Red light girl! There is definitely something up. Go surprise him... maybe you get your answer.
2006-08-18 14:44:00 · answer #9 · answered by iluvafrica 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's insecure..
ask him why he hasn't been planning stuff with you
hes prob gona make up a dumb excuse.
if hes being retarded. i suggest dumping him.
2006-08-18 14:45:45 · answer #10 · answered by a cool person. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋