My Inlaws are forever putting me down i try so hard to ignoer it but it only makes matters wores i have confronted them but all that does is add to the situation. It hurts becaues they don't do any thing for there kids but i'm forever helping them as they are only kids they are forever juging me and saying harsh things but expect me to still do things for them or even wores lie.What should i do some times i just want pay back and other times i wish they would say it to my face.
2006-08-18 14:24:26 · 7 answers · asked by sweety yhi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I have been dealing with this and found the best way to deal with it is to ignore all of them. We have caller id on the phone if I see it is them I let my husband answer, or the machine picks up. If they decide they want something then it is his family and he can deal with them while I stay home and play with the kids or do some errands. When you are around them and they say something to offend you just say sorry you feel that way guess I will be on my way then and leave even if you are in the middle of doing them a favor. You are making it to easy on them because they know they are getting to you. If you try to get even you just put your husband in the middle which isn't fair to him and can cause problems for the two of you. As long as you are at their beck and call they will use you when they see you are fed up they will also see that if they don't change their attitude there will be no help.
2006-08-18 15:27:13 · answer #1 · answered by Martha S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had problems with my in-laws for 23 years (thats how long I am married to their son). Mine basically ignore me and my kids and expect the family to be at their beck and call should they need something. I have been hurt by them so many times, I now cease to care. I think the trick is to just realize that you will never change them. Confrontation never works... it just gets turned around and you are the bad guy. My best advice is to move beyond it, do the minimum, and stop letting them hurt you. If they get pissed off, good. Their problem. Sounds cold, but, like I said, you cant change people, and you will always be the "out-law". Best of luck to you...
2006-08-18 14:33:52 · answer #2 · answered by juju 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being so nice to them because no matter what you do it is not going to be good enough if they can't get past their own selfishness then they are not worth the time of day. You do not need anyone bad mouthing you and putting you down cease all help to them and see if they change their attitude.
2006-08-18 14:30:05 · answer #3 · answered by ozi_nut 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would stop helping them because they are putting you down! Sit down with them and tell them that you are no longer going to help them because of all of the rude things that they say about you and right now you don't need the stress in your life. Tell them that if they can't respect you they obviously don't need your help!
My grandma and grandpa HATED my mom when her and my dad got married and now 27 years later they call her their favorite daughter in law, and they would do anything for her. They have 6 sons and they are all married and my mom is now the favorite after being hated for 15 years.
2006-08-18 14:35:40 · answer #4 · answered by Chrissie W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you should tell your daughter son etc how you feel and furthermore you should stop carrying so much about those kids because you didnot marry your in laws you are not their mother you already done enough raising your own children... word of advise ignore them as much as posiblemaybe then their parents will take responsibility and the kids will miss you and oh well you'll see the results
2006-08-18 14:37:30 · answer #5 · answered by stupid lol 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to get some self esteem and tell them to f u c k off.. u dont' need them, it seems as though they need u.. u need to remove urself from their life as much as possible.. don't go around them if u don't have to, don't entertain them if u don't have to.. stop helping them take care of their kids as well. there not ur kids and if there disrespecting u then they don't need any help or gifts from u.. just that simple...
2006-08-18 14:31:15 · answer #6 · answered by Queen D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you got Outlaws
"Nothing ventured nothing gained" tell them to get a life and go your own way. They'll need you before you need them!
2006-08-18 15:09:14 · answer #7 · answered by Bob Bob 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋