we eventually split up an she`s been seein someone else, i made a really big mistake cheating on her an i still love her, she never spoke to me since but all of the sudden ive got a text of her tonight sayin `i really miss you, wish things could have been different` what do i do???
2006-08-18 14:19:48 · 58 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What do you do? You can at least return the favor and let her know how you feel....I mean afterall you're the one who broke the relationship up. Txt her back or if you know her number (call her).
Say something like "Hi, I just got your msg and.........................
If she's currently involved in a new relationship, do not get in between and your conversation should end there so get it all out now and get some closure.
2006-08-18 14:31:02 · answer #1 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing, you screwed up, you deal with it and the next time someone cares for you don't screw it up. You aren't entitled to a second chance. Once something like that happens the relationship is changed forever. She might take you back (its actually a part of the whole been cheated on routine) but that phase of it will pass and it will always bother her. She will never truly be able to feel the same about you again. You can't have it back the way it was before you screwed around so its best to let her go so she can find a relationship that she can be all the way happy with....was it worth it?
2006-08-18 14:27:31 · answer #2 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you still have feelings for her text her back. I split up with my bf a few years back we had a young child together. Six months later I text him and since we have got back together and had 2 more children so go for it you have nothing to lose. Just dont cheat again if you do get back together. Also address the issues why you cheated on her in the first place.
2006-08-18 14:33:47 · answer #3 · answered by KIRSTEN F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you really love her, you should try to reconcile;however, I wonder if you have learned from your mistakes. Do you really love her or are you a dog in the manger? You don't want her yourself but you don't want anyone else to have her. Just wondering.
Anyway if you have learned a lesson, do some serious kissing up and make it work.
And for goodness sakes, if you're going to cheat again, leave the poor girl alone. Do you want to give her AIDS? That's what you'll be getting if you keep cheating.
2006-08-18 14:27:23 · answer #4 · answered by nellie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you really want to be with this person then you need to show her. Start by sending flowers with an apology. Tell how wrong you were and that you are really sorry. But you have to mean it. Only time can make the pain go away. You can't take the hurt back. But you can try to make the relationship work.
2006-08-18 14:30:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing. Things must not be going good in the current relationship and she misses when things were good with the two of you.
If she wants you back, she will make the first step. But dont get your hopes up. forgiveness is a personal thing, she has to decide that.
Dont read too much into the text.
2006-08-18 14:24:53 · answer #6 · answered by Mx2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing u can do. u need to give her a chance at being happy, what u did was wrong and u never know what u got until it's gone all just for a nut that probably lasted bout 5 secs.... let her move on, cause u coming back into her life will only bring back up the past that hurt her..
if u truly lover her u'll let her be and deal w/ur loss
2006-08-18 14:26:31 · answer #7 · answered by Queen D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
usually that means she wants you back. if you want her back i think you have a good chance, but dont do it all at once. like ask her if she want to have a movie and dinner, and if that turns out well, keep getting together until you feel that it is the right time to ask. but remember, a woman will always remember when a man cheats on her, it is not forgotten.
if you 2 do get back together, be honest and show her that you only have eyes for her. women love that.
tonight (if you want) send her an text message or IM saying something like "i have tried to like other girls, but since weve been apart it is hard for me to look at them, my eyes are too full of you.------they love that mushy stuff too.
2006-08-18 14:40:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very carefully follow her lead,reply to her with a HANDWRITTEN heartfelt apology as you have in you and see what her reply is.If she gives you another chance then it's up to you to regain her trust.But if she cannot forgive you then you will have to move on in your life.(AFTER ALL IT WAS YOU WHO CHEATED ON HER) And even though you may have lost her do to your moment of indiscretion hopefully you will learn from your error in judgment and never do it again. As much as it you hurts losing her think of how much it it hurt her when she found out the person who professed his love for her cheated on her and broke the most sacred trust between two people who love each other.
2006-08-18 14:35:28 · answer #9 · answered by hjbergel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't come in with guns a blazin looking to get some or something like that. You gotta call her up and sound vulnerable and insecure. Maybe even squeeze some lemon in your eye to squeak out a couple of tears. She'll be wrapped around your finger in no time.
2006-08-18 14:28:23 · answer #10 · answered by npbassman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋