We always hang out..with eachother. We study together, we eat dinner together..we play cards..she almost expects me to help her and for me to respond to her. I told her already that i cared deeply for her, but she told me that we could never be anything more than friends. She is Iranian..and i am an Arabic guy. My gut tells me it's because we have different back grounds. But she denies it. She always goes for the guys that her freinds know..and who her friends approve of. She has two worlds. One where she's with her friends..and then one where we are together. She never invites me with her and her freinds..(twice)..and when i invite her anywhere..etc..it's always no i can't..etc. Thats why i think she is using me..knowing i'm hooked. I need some serious advice. I don't think i can continue to be just "friends" anymore. It's time to make a decision.
2006-08-18 14:12:39 · 18 answers · asked by trapper 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Stop talking to this girl. She is using you. This girl is not your friend. A true friend would not treat you this way. It seems she only comes talking to you when she needs something and other than that she does not want to be bothered with you. Forget her she is only interested in what she can gain from your friendship she is not worried about your feelings. You will get hurt if you stay in this situation. Move on and find a friend who will treat you the way you treat them.
2006-08-18 14:23:27 · answer #1 · answered by strawberries 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, you have to make a decision guy, because you should NOT be taking this abuse. You seem like a good guy, from what I can see reading your description of what's been going on. As for her, she should NOT be abusing you like this because you don't deserve it. But because it IS happening, something is up, and it's not too hard to see. Good thing you can see the clues! Clearly, she doesn't feel the same as you feel or think about her. Your instincts are dead on, guy- she is using you. If she were truly into you, wouldn't she be bringing you into her life or world, just like you did with her?!?! She is selfish and immature to do this to anybody; but this is the kind of thing these people would do, because they see something they want or like, but don't want the whole package. And some people could be seeing this also, guy. Not just you. She's holding you back from having the real thing with someone else, and I would tell her exactly that, guy! And yeah, it'll hurt a bit because here's some assh*le of a chick taking a good guy for a ride...and it's the "knowing it" part that stings. Tell her exactly, and brush her off. Don't take revenge, but tell your friends so that they'll know who and what she is! And I can't believe she's doing this to an Arabic guy! I could see if you were some kind of punk loser, but that's not the case! You gotta do it for your own selfrespect; she doesn't deserve you! Period.
2006-08-18 21:38:25 · answer #2 · answered by vortexx 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Okay so are you guys dating or not, what is there to end??? The friendship
This is what you need to understand about females, alot of the times we mean what we say.. unlike men, we put it out there and if you don't like what we are saying tough.. so becuz im a female im gonna put it out there for ya a little better... If she says that she just wants to be friends you need to understand that, plus (from experience) if two best friends start dating and for some reason break up then the friendship is over as well. So maybe she is scared to date you because she knows that when you break up that she will lose an awesome FRIEND
you understand what im saying.. so try to get over your feelings for her and continue to be her friend because it sounds like you two are great friends for eachother don't go and tell her i cant be your friend because you won't date me that is way lame and really really bad trust me on this one i know what i am talking about
2006-08-18 21:22:13 · answer #3 · answered by Common Sense 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As hard as it may be you do need to end things. You can either deal with the hardship of losing your friend ONCE, or you can let her continue to use you over and over again and hurt you OVER and OVER again. So either way it is going to be hard on you but you need to make a decision. If she was the girl for you, you would know it and you wouldnt be asking this question. I hope you the best of luck, now and in the future.
2006-08-18 21:29:25 · answer #4 · answered by Bri 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You aren't going to get more than just friendship out of this relationship because she isn't interested in more than that. Therefore, continuing in it will only continue to hurt you. I'd just stay away from her for a while until those romantic feelings you have for her go away. This isn't good for you so stop doing it.
2006-08-18 21:18:03 · answer #5 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can't force someone who wants to be just friends to feel more for you. You should find another girl who is interested in having a relationship with you and will love you in return.
2006-08-18 21:23:30 · answer #6 · answered by Bazinga 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if she cant commit to you or she is ashamed to be seen out with you. then dont waste any more of your life love. she dosent deserve you. let her go to her friends. then you can find a nice girl who loves YOU. because she dosent. she has told you she only wants to be a friend BUT she dosent want you with her. SO a friend like her you dont need. good luck.
2006-08-18 21:25:43 · answer #7 · answered by KATIEKAT 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Give yourself some space from her. Get her off your mind and i'm sure you'll find someone else who wants to actually be with you.
2006-08-18 21:26:40 · answer #8 · answered by kz 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
People treat you the way you allow them to treat you. You need to stop letting her getting away with treating with little respect and you need to stop it today.
2006-08-18 21:21:42 · answer #9 · answered by Jessica 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that you have made your decision. Now you just need to act on it!
2006-08-18 21:18:59 · answer #10 · answered by Cindy B 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋