What's wrong with me?

Question

I'm a 19 year old guy, most people say I'm very attractive (true story), and I have no friends. I dumped them because all they do is smoke weed all day long. And I'm sooo lonely. I have no one to talk to.

I feel like I'm being a weirdo. There's a party tonight and I'm invited but I know that there is going to be all kinds of drugs there and alcohol. I just feel like I'm growing up too fast. I feel like my dad. He says that I don't need all of that stuff and life is better without it. And I believe him but there is this party tonight and I'm really lonely and all I want to do is have a good time. But I don't want to get sucked into that lifestyle of drugs and alcohol again. What should I do ? - I'm so depressed...

Answer 1

don't go or else you will regret it...big time!
find new friends who will not pressure you into anything.

Answer 2

If you already know you dont want to join the weed drug crowd, what about others? Are there any other non-weed non drug crowd? For example, have you tried to join a sports club to play badminton, or ball room dancing, or just general fitness, yoga, stretching, biking club, hiking club etc; if you havent tried this you could start joining in something that you feel a true interest in. Or you could get a part time job, a paying one or volunteer job, you will meet other people, maybe not your own age at volunteer job but if you are nice smart gd looking guy, I am sure lots of people will want to present friends to you. Sometimes socially time goes very slowly, most important thing is to have some interest that belongs to you - this way you will always find people to share in your interest. Do you live in a small town? Where there arent any coffee shops? Then go to a larger neighbouring town and visit spend an evening by yourself look around... join a library reading club, community centre for crafts, learn a foreign language. Get out of the house, smell the grass in a park, fly a kite, a motorised model boat; writing group, walk a dog, get a pet, dont forget to check out that gal who work at the pet shop too, all good. ;)

Answer 3

So go and say no to the drugs and alcohol! You can still have fun with out it! Don't pay attention to those who give you a hard time about it! There will be other people at the party who think the way you do seek them out and start talking! Go have fun and if you get in to trouble or feel uncomfortable call your Dad to come and get you! He's a great Dad for looking out for you!

Answer 4

You aren't growing up too fast you are just smart all those friends that you have that are doing the drinking and drugs are the dumb ones, trust you are the one that will be better off in life... here's a true story
I have never done any drugs in my life now 2/3 of my friends are on probation or in prison because of drugs and i am the only one you has made something of myself..
Go get you some new friends that aren't like that and stick to your principles. You shouldn't have to feel like you have to do drugs or drink because your friends are

Answer 5

You shouldn't go to that party. You have made the right decision to give up your old lifestyle and unfortunately your friends. But they aren't really good friends if they pressure you to do something that is harmful to you. We all go through times where we feel alone and like everyone has abandoned us. Don't worry, there are people that love and care about you, like your dad. And remember that God is your constant friend and He will always be there with you. I'm glad that you have made the right choice and have taken control of your life - I know that it must have been a really hard decision to make. If you need to talk about anything you can e-mail me.

Answer 6

Don't go! Stay on track with your life, drugs and alcohol just bring you down. Especially when you are so young. Most older adults cant handle drugs and alcohol, and it eventually in some way shape or form ruins their life. Even if you went to the party and you don't drink or do drugs, what if the place gets raided?

Answer 7

i advise u 2 go 4 half an hour and if u feel weak and just wont 2
drink then u have 2 get out of there.
bout z friends issue there r alot of ppl at ur age that dont smoke
all u have 2 do is search and i am sure that u will find nice and
cool ppl
Good luck

Answer 8

You say you feel like a weirdo? well thats because you are one in fact one of the biggest ones i ever heard of! smoke some weed maybe youll seem funny to people and they will want to hang out with you or down a dozen shots before the party youll have them laughing thier asses off. peace out weirdo.

Answer 9

i think you do the right things. those " friends" who smoke and take drugs and drink alcohol are not true friends. they just give you bad affection. thus , the most important thing is stay away from the people, and do not feel guilty and it is not a pity. oneday you will find true friends who will share everthing with you and give you courage and encouragement. then guy, please cheer up! you do not have to be depressed. and you will not regret what you do today.

Answer 10

In my opinion I would say resist,You will be glad you did in the long run.And try renewing your thoughts,focus on worth while things and work towards having them.Or go back to your old lifestyle end up in prison for a stupid drunken decision and spend the rest of your life regretting it. The choice is up to you.May God bless You.

Answer 11

look same thing happens to me but unlike you i am 15. i don't think you should go to that party because if you are already so depressed you might do something stupid like try drugs.... and try looking for new friends ... real ones are the sincere 1's make eye contact with them and you'll bound to find which friends are more convinient.
any whom i know you are not going to listen to my advice for i am younger and you probably think i don't know any better