was on cocaine about a year girlfriend did not know?

Question

was arrested for dui sounds bad but best thing that could have
happened to me. had a lot of time to think on the inside. realized
how much a was hurting my girl. came home conffesed to her
she has not spoken to me for a month now, i love her very much
we have been together four and half years, she emailed me yesterday said i was not the person she thaught i was, granted
that crap does change you i dont care what anyone says.
now clean i know what a f***ed situation i put myself into.
she also said she have no more feelings for me, how can someone that tells you they love so much turn me off like a switch
i know i made the worst mistake of my life doing that crap.
i guess i feel that when a problem comes up in a relationship
if the couple truly love one another they come together as one
and fix the problem, no matter what it is, to me thats love,
o and it does not help her co-workers telling her to leave me.
i dont think its any of there concern. can someone please help

Answer 1

just tell them to get therapy go to re habit to get off the drugs

Answer 2

You're right...being locked up for awhile was probably the best thing for you as a wake up call...and it seems like you've gotten the message. The thing is, your girlfriend hasn't experienced this awakening with you ( in fact, she's just now finding out about it all, so she's understandably let down and hurt). I don't have an answer for whether or not that relationship can be repaired because people react differently to this type of thing. But I know you seem to be hanging in there with sobriety, and its important not to let a lack of support from people that matter to you cause you to relapse. Go to meetings and get yourself a sponsor (if you don't already have one); they are people who have been where you've been, and they can help you maintain stability when it's most crucial. Look upon being clean as a gift you've given yourself. The problem with drugs is, the problems you had while you were using are still there once you're clean, except now, they look bigger since you're no longer self-medicating to avoid them. It's real easy to relapse at a time like that. But if you can hold your head up, apologize where it's necessary, and go on with your life, you'll be a healthy inspiration to yourself...and to someone else too over time.Always remember where you came from ( what you've been through) so that you don't ever have to repeat that cycle again. Good luck to you... I'm around quite a bit if you need to talk it out some more.

Answer 3

I understand both sides of this. My guy is a heroin addicted..he's not done it for close to two years. It was also before we met. When he told me about his addiction, I told him that drugs have NO place in my life at all. If he ever started them again I would walk away. Now if he wants to do a drug he'll ask me if it's alright before he even buys it. I don't care for it, but I don't think once in awhile (every 5months) is that big of a deal. He did come addicted to pain killers...I did stand by him during that time...Things like that are so hard on the one doing the drug..but just as hard on the one who's not doing them. I don't understand her leaving you after you became clean...I could see her telling you that it would be over if you did them again...because that would mean your picking drugs as being more important to you than she is....this is coming from someone who's never been into drugs though...so I don't really understand the addiction...Your idea, and her idea of love seem to be two different things..I agree with yours...the right person will come along for you...obviously it's not her.....I wish you luck in staying clean...stay strong!...take care!

Answer 4

I have to agree with you about what your saying. If she really loved you, she would help you get better, instead of leaving you to deal with it by yourself. No, she shouldn't even be telling her co-workers your business. Sounds like to me, she just doesn't want to be in a relationship she has to work at. But, as long as you get help and stay away from the coke, your life will get better. With or without her. I wouldn't want to be with someone I couldn't depend on for support anyway, if I were you. At least you were honest with her, most people would not have confessed. Give her some time, if she really loves you, she'll come back, if you want to wait.

Answer 5

Well, she probably still has feelings for you but doesn't know how to take everything in and she feels betrayed by you because you weren't honest with her in the first place and you hid it from her yeah probably because you knew that she would leave you if she found out! You need to talk to her and explain the fact that you know what you were doing was wrong and you want her to help you through this and you need her support. Let her know that you really do love her and that your relationship with her is very important to you and you are ready to do anything that it takes to get it back. If the relationship is that important to you, you will do anything it takes to get it back..

I went through a similar situation only difference was that I was pregnant with his baby and he was messed up on meth the whole time! I found out about 7 months later because it got to the point that he wouldn't come home for days!! I left him, then we tried again and he went back. It is now over between us!

Answer 6

Well, first of all. Shame on you. She hasn't just turned you out like a light, believe me. If you have been a good man to her overall, then you are worth forgiving. And she will, but in time. You have to prove to her that you mean what you say. And if you really love her, you will take as long as it takes to get her back. You have to gain her trust back. It takes a long time to gain, but only one single accusation to ruin it all. Now, you have to start from the bottom again. If you love her and if she loves you, you will end up together. Just keep telling her how sorry you are, and you how can't live without her. And don't do cocaine anymore, ever!

Answer 7

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Answer 8

she just used that as an excuse. if she loved you you wouldnt be asking this question