am i going crazy?

Question

i told my mom i was
going to go job hunting...so she told me
"oh youll never get the job...and so on"
i told her i didnt like her negative attitude towards me.
so she called me crazy and that she has never been
negative towards me. shes even threatened to get
me a psychologist.

shes never positive in anything i do. like when
i was a runner she would say it was nothing if i wasnt
first...i learned to hate it after 5 yrs of it.

now im writting lyrics for my guitar and their so sad
that i cant help to think that i am losing my mind.

Answer 1

No, you're not the one who's crazy.

I'm sorry your Mom's so negative! No body needs that kind of negativity, but you're stuck at home with her and it doesn't sound like she even cares to understand.

If you really want a job and you look for it, of course you'll find one! And of course, winning isn't everything! There's much more to sports than just winning. It's about positive attitude, learning to compete, presonal discipline, teamplaying, etc. As a matter of fact, it sounds like your mom needs some lessons in "sportsmanship" for life!!

Her sour attitude may have kept her back, but it doesn't have to keep you back!

Keep looking for work and keep running, because it sounds like something you enjoy. And by all means...keep writing lyrics for your guitar!

You sound like a creative person and writing lyrics is a great way to put your feelings into words and song. What a great way to express yourself. Some of the most beautiful and powerful songs expressed such painful feelings. Hang in there!

Answer 2

I had the same type of situation with my Dad and I talked about it with him once. He told me that he said those things as a sort of "reverse psychology:" he was hoping if he said I couldn't do something or would never amount to anything that it would push me to prove him wrong. Could be your mom is doing the same thing. I think it's wrong for parents to do that to kids--not supportive at all, and it DOES affect how you feel about yourself unless you can either get away from the negativity or talk to someone about it. I chose to get away from it by leaving home and never going back except for visits. Now my father seems to appreciate me more since I'm only there for visits now and then, and he is not so negative towards me. And I feel better because I've been able to surround myself with more positive people. You should too. Good luck!

Answer 3

No your not going crazy, - what i can tell you is that your mother is probably mentally abusing you - you just dont really know it - there is an abuse called mental abuse, its when a person pretty abuses you by words...your mom is probably making you feel this way - what i want you do it have a long talk with your mom - tell her your not a lil kid and you dont need to keep me locked in box, along with stuff like why cant you just be proud of me?? I dont have to be first to be succesful, -

Also another point to add you sound kinda depressed to me, because of the sad lyrics, but im not calling you depressed or anything im just saying...because im a gutair player and write sad lyrics too...i just suggest that you talk with her and if you have to yell and make a point your not crazy ive had too that and it acctually worked.

I hope this helps

<3 Laura

Answer 4

Your mother feels fear, like many people. When fear rules the mind it does not work so good. I believe humans are primarily negative at first. The natural need to defend needs a skeptical suspecious mind. Perhaps she is projecting her negativity outside of your relationship, e.g. she says you are not going to get the job because she believes it is a sexist world or because they demand more than you are willing to do. Maybe she IS being judgemental, but only to toughen you against the impersonal judgement of total strangers.

She says she has NEVER been negative to you? Sure, like we are all perfect or something all the time. She's the one that's losing it. I think she feels the pain of her own failure and fears YOUR judgement, losing YOUR love.

She would say it was nothing if you were not first. Was it anything to begin with. Fear, failure, hard as*. She's too afraid to change. Fear stole from me the ability to experience, beauty, peace and contentment. I think that's what happened to your mother. That's why she seems loveless.

Answer 5

Writing song lyrics is a wonderful outlet for whatever you're feeling. Expressing those emotions will keep you from "losing your mind". People who're unable to vent are the ones who go crazy. It's also good that you told your mom that you didn't appreciate her negativity. You sound pretty normal to me.
Good luck with the job search and stop letting Mom bring you down.

Answer 6

I sometimes have the same problem with my dad. He is so negative towards me and it really hurts. Its like nothing I do is good enough. And I would become really depressed about it.

But, what I learned is you have to believe in yourself. Its really cool that you can play guitar. You can gather up all those feelings that your mom has caused and put it to music. Just don't feel like what your mother my think or feel, is who you are.

You are who you make yourself out to be. Stay positive, that's what I do.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

Wow! Your Mom sounds like my Mom! It really hurts when a parent isn't supportive in the way we need them to be. Truth is, your Mom is probably trying to protect you from disappointment and is going about it the wrong way. Even so, it sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders and believe in yourself. That's a HUGE accomplishment. Don't let anyone's negativity stand in your way of feeling good about yourself and from trying new things. May only the best come your way!

Answer 9

If you are constantly told you are not good enough you are going ot beleive it YOU have to take control of the situation. Next time your mum comes out with a negative like that say geez mum I am sure you would like me to do well, thanks you for the advice, but you have to think positivly to get yourself out of this negativity I had the same from my family and I learnt how to thnk positivly and I have gotten so much further in my life since then I wish you luck in the future.

Answer 10

Sweetheart sounds like your mother negativeness has you depressed, and possibly you get it from her and she may have depression issues. You need to continue to use your creative outlets, such as writing you songs etc. Look to find positive situations to be in. And this is the hardest, believe in yourself and quit relying on the options of others to judge yourself.

So did you get the job?

Good luck in all you endeavors