He has lied to me about so much. I could have gotten an annulment instead of divorce because of his lies. This has really hurt me and I am afraid I won't recover from this easily.
2006-08-18 13:53:26 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It won't be easy - but it will happen. I am going through the same thing. Four months ago I thought I was going to go crazy dealing with the feelings of hurt and betrayal. You take one day at a time - one step at a time. Let yourself be angry, hurt, cry - do what ever it takes. You are dealing with the death of a marriage and of a person you thought you knew. It is going to hurt. However, It does get better! I am getting to the point where I can see a light at the end of the tunnel - a point where I know I will be better off without my ex in my life. You deserve better - keep that in mind!
2006-08-18 14:09:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run. Run for the hills. Get the annulment and dont' look back. You can't recover from violations of trust, especially multiple ones with the person you trusted most.
Run and don't look back. And get some therapy so you can look forward to future, trusting relationships with people who deserve your company and goodness.
Don't ask him why he lied. He doesn't know. Pathological liars lie because they do so more easily than telling the truth. There are usually no consequences for their lies, so they continue until YOU are the Crazy One. Don't do it.
2006-08-18 14:03:16 · answer #2 · answered by MJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will get over it.It will take time to heal and that's what you have to do, allow yourself time to get over it.If you still love him maybe counseling will help if he's willing to come clean about everything.It might just work.I know how it feels when someone hurts you over and over with lies.Keep your head up and focus on the things that will make you happy.Trust you will recover and life will be alot brighter.
2006-08-18 14:04:59 · answer #3 · answered by missmadhatter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been there, done that. I am in the process of a divorce. You just need to make sure that you have tried everything to make it work. If you feel you haven't, then do it. Once you have done everything to keep your marriage going and he doesn't get it together, then you need to do whatever you need to do to keep yourself safe and happy. Pray about it. Let God lead you and listen to His word. You will know what to do.
God Bless and I will pray for you, both.
2006-08-18 14:09:06 · answer #4 · answered by little mama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's been eleven years for me since I was where you are now, and I don't think a day goes by that I don't think about how badly I was treated and how easy I let him off for it. I don't know unless you start a new relationship, which I haven't. That may make a difference.
2006-08-18 14:08:59 · answer #5 · answered by auntkarendjjb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will get over it. I was married for 21 years only to find out it was all a lie and I thought I'd die but I'm fine now. Good luck and God Bless.
2006-08-18 14:06:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may take awhile but you will find a man that will be good to you. Just be cautious and really get to know them ( Hire a private detective) :)
2006-08-18 13:59:47 · answer #7 · answered by ₦âħí»€G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you did the smart thing sweetie by getting out. it'll take you some time to start trusting again. be patient and focus on the positive things you're doing.
2006-08-18 14:02:08 · answer #8 · answered by Ruth R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do u luv him does he love u prolly not leave do waterver the inteernet isnt the place for answers 2 luv
2006-08-18 14:13:15 · answer #9 · answered by da bomb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you wont recover from this easily, but you will move on in time. learn from it
2006-08-18 14:04:49 · answer #10 · answered by Auryheana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋